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Naked Faces, Illegal Hugs & last call for 20% off sale

I took this selfie last summer, when I was experimenting with wearing a face mask due to a troublesome allergy reaction. How eerily prophetic that less than a year later, we are all wearing face masks.

I have come to take a lot for granted. I believe we’re all waking up to that fact. I’ve taken safety for granted. I’ve taken healthy air for granted. And I’m realizing that I’ve taken faces for granted. Beautiful, bare faces — but no longer! Faces reveal so much about us. We are actually quite vulnerable when people see our faces, and I don’t mean just vulnerable to the virus. And how about eyes?  How fascinating and expressive eyes are when they are peeking over masks! Have you noticed?

There’s another thing that many folks take for granted; Some of us single-living folks are not being touched much these days. Typically, we get hugs, handshakes, and so many other pats or platonic touches in our daily life. But now those precious connections are paused. We don’t even accidentally bump into anyone. We’re not being massaged, or routinely getting chiropractic treatments either, unless it’s really essential.  We’re not getting our hair washed, cut and fluffed. Touch-hunger is a real thing, and the body registers lack of touch on physical, spiritual, and psychological levels.

My sister, who lives abroad, told me last week that her young grand-kids finally came over to visit their beloved granny. In their country, there have been very strict rules about traveling outside the immediate home area. But they’d all been missing each other something awful.  So they donned their masks, and as the country’s rules relaxed a bit, they decided to try to safely visit outside. However, in the end, neither my sister nor the kids could resist hugging each other. At least they kept their masks on. “Illegal” it may have been, and hopefully not too risky since they’d all been practicing sheltering-at-home, but the joy felt from it was immeasurable. 

Being touched is a crucial need for humans. It soothes anxiety and helps our nervous, digestive, and immune systems. Going without being touched has some big drawbacks. I had to ask myself, as I contemplated my own situation of living alone, what can help mitigate this really fundamental need of humans to feel connection through touch?

I did a little internet searching and found an interesting article in Time Magazine on ways to try to compensate for the lack of skin contact now, in light of Covid-19: 

https://time.com/5817453/coronavirus-human-touch/

The article describes how online video chatting, virtual dance parties and online group yoga or exercise classes can aid connection and stimulate hormones being released that are similar to the hormonal stimulation of touch. It’s so valuable to connect with others at this unprecedented time, and thank goodness for online access to other humans.

This is also an incredibly great time to connect deeply, not only with others, but also with your own soul. It’s important to feel compassion for ourselves and for what we’re going through. Don’t isolate from others, and also don’t turn away from the life of your soul. The soul hungers too. The soul cultivates courage. The nourishment we’re seeking now for courage can’t come from cookies, chocolate, alcohol or drugs that might be tempting as we try to escape the current reality. That escapism is human, and let’s be realistic, probably necessary at times, but ultimately, it’s only a temporary band-aid. It can’t be a steady, pandemic diet because it won’t nourish the courage we all need.

It’s such a blessing to connect spiritually with whatever is sacred to you – whether you call it Spirit, the Universe, God, Higher Power, Higher Self…whatever that is to you. So meditate, chant, pray…do whatever you’re called to do spiritually. Especially sweet is to connect with others who are on a spiritual path, which truly feeds that connection and courage hunger in a deeply nourishing way.

Shamanic soul retrieval and extraction, and Akashic Record readings are deeply personal journeys into your soul and what is sacred to you. These sessions bring you back to joy and wholeness, and connect you to your inner guidance, faith – and courage. Only your inner guidance can really inform you of what is healthy for you….and what isn’t. Only your personal guidance can give you the “a-ha’s” that open up perspectives, purpose, and broaden your world. My work is to be a channel of the sacred energies that have all our backs, twenty-four hours a day. I know that as rough as these times are, there is good that is already coming from it, and more on the way if we continue to grow as spiritual beings.

One last reminder: I am offering 20% off my shamanic soul retrieval and extraction sessions and 20% off Akashic Record readings in this month of April.  One week left to schedule an appointment, so don’t delay if you’re looking for more connection, courage, fulfillment and joy! Please contact me for a free consultation to discuss if my services might be helpful for you now. If you book an appointment in the coming week, we can set it up for May.

Be safe, be healthy,

Paula

The ruby slippers and 20% off

The famous poet T.S. Eliot wrote in his poem, The Waste Land, that “April is the cruelest month,” but this year, I’d have to say in the United States, it was March. Even though Covid-19 was raging in China in January, it seems we didn’t grasp the enormity of the pandemic until March, when we were forcefully shoved through an unknown portal which massively changed life — probably forever.  A curtain was pulled back, and we’ve been given an experience similar, perhaps, to what Dorothy encountered in the Wizard of Oz when she got a look at the real wizard, and realized he wasn’t the one who could get her back to Kansas.

Maybe we thought there were adults in charge who might actually keep things running more or less as they always ran. We thought if we played the game of life right, we might somehow predictably ride the train into a ripe old age.  But instead, we’re uncomfortably awakening to the fact that the power to feel safe and happy is not “out there”; it’s actually something we’ve had all along. We’re needing to learn this the hard way, by necessity. We’re being invited to find happiness within ourselves while the virus and chaos rage on.

Please don’t get me wrong, a paycheck and toilet paper are very, very fine things to have now. Scoring some t.p. now, or having a job, is a bit like winning the lottery. But, in fact, we might just have the power within to survive the loss of either.  I will call that power “Grace”.  It’s a spiritual thing, a gift of our Higher Self, and I think many of us now are seeing and feeling immense gratitude for the good we do have in our lives now.  Seeing our good, naming it, and being thankful for it, despite what’s happening externally, is the most important thing we can do now.  It calls in the Grace! Gratitude brings us more to be grateful for; this is spiritual law.

Just as Dorothy discovered that the Wizard wasn’t great at all, we see that the “adults in charge” are seemingly floundering and as vulnerable as we apparently seem to be. But when it comes to staying sane, grounded, safe and hopeful during these difficult times, the truth is that we must, AND WE CAN, find the power to go back home – to a sense of safety and joy.  We have to click our ruby slippers, like Dorothy did, and return to our inner sanctuary, where we find peace, guidance, creativity, joy and safety in the present moment.

The truth is that life has always been unpredictable.  We just were pretty much asleep to the full extent of that unpredictability. But on this almost incomprehensible scale, we’ve been awakened. I feel called to point you back to your spiritual empowerment. There are so many tools and so much Grace available to us, especially in this time of anxiety, fear and loss.  There is wisdom, connection, joy, humor and lots of love. There are people around to catch you – to virtually hug you when no touch is available. Don’t isolate, don’t despair. Instead, contemplate on the gifts of this time and please commit to keeping your spirits high. 

It’s crucial to do everything possible to keep your vibration high. Meditating daily, thinking positively, moving your body, and opening your heart are all very good practices to focus on now. Maintaining a high vibration is so important to your health.

Do stay safe and don’t entertain fearful thoughts. It’s such a powerful time to work on your inner world, and the fruits of that inner work will manifest externally in the days to come. We will emerge stronger and better from this time. Be the peace now that we want to collectively create — that we have long been hoping to manifest.  

My shamanic sessions and Akashic Record readings are powerful tools to use to heal trauma and deeply guide you into inner wholeness and rebirth. I am offering 20% off these sessions in the month of April. Please contact me if you’d like a complimentary consultation to discuss how these modalities could help you at this time.

For emotional and spiritual support, and consciousness expansion, I also recommend the following:   

1.  MONTHLY LIVE YOUTUBE FULL MOON MEDITATIONS

Every month, please join Indian teacher and enlightened being, Tejasaji, for a powerful live Full Moon Meditation during the Full Moon in India.

All are welcome. Subscribe to the link:

http://bit.ly/GoldenAgeMovement   (Same link to use monthly.)

This month, we will be meditating on Wednesday, April 8. Select a session below which is best for your time zone and just go to the link above. Feel free to meditate both times:  

Wed., April 8th –

1.) 5:30 am PT

6:30 am MT

7:30 am CT

8:30 am ET

Wed. April 8 –

2.) 8:30am PT 

9:30am MT

10:30am CT

11:30 am ET

2.  Also, for your daily meditations to calm anxiety, learn to meditate, lift your vibration and much more, I’m recommending two really wonderful apps: 

* Insight Timer.  It has 40,000 free meditations!

* Breathing Room.  This app includes a number of powerful, free meditations as well as a fee for other meditations, and there is a 7-day free trial. 

3. Lastly, there is another virtual, one-day, intensive, JOURNEY INTO HAPPINESS, that’s being live-streamed from India on Sunday, April 26, from 9:30am to 7pm.  You can find info and  registration for it by Kristin Panek of Flowering Heart Center.  Sit in your home and be transformed! Please check out the details and register here:  https://www.eventbrite.com/e/a-journey-into-happiness-tickets-101236557268?aff=efbneb

Please note there is a discount for those who are repeating the course. I can’t stress enough how much this course has helped so many people, myself included, to clear old hurts, to love, and to feel joy and peace –no matter what is going on in the world.

Wishing you all the very, very best.  Stay healthy and stay home if your work allows it.  Praying for the health and well-being for you, your family, and our planetary community. Don’t hesitate to reach out if I can be of help!

Love,

Paula

SPIRIT IS AT THE POLLING PLACE

In the midst of early voting this week, I had a magical experience at the Polling Place. You just never know where little miracles are waiting for you!  I arrived, eager to vote, only to hear that the internet had just crashed as I was walking up to register at the ballot-giver’s desk. The crash, it turned out, delayed voting for about half an hour. I was at the head of a forming line of other puzzled voters. As the minutes ticked by, some people were wondering if they should stay or go try to vote elsewhere. What an unexpected experience to have when voting!

In the midst of the confusion, I struck up a conversation with a very friendly volunteer, who came out from behind the desk. She, of course, was stopped in her efforts to register, and went on a forced little break .

The unexpected timing of this event seemed to invite a somewhat uncomfortable invitation to ponder if this crash was some kind of planned “sabotage.” With the horrific shootings at the Tree of Life Synagogue last week, we were, perhaps, initially a bit on edge. But that settled down as the technical glitch was identified and handled.

Soon, a palpable, unifying sense of togetherness kind of unfolded.  Almost everyone was chipper in the face of this uncomfortable obstacle, except for a few disgruntled, would-be voters. But I don’t think anyone left to go vote elsewhere. It was kind of like we surrendered, together, to the helplessness of the moment and then found it quite pleasant, actually. At least I did!

The friendly volunteer on her “break” began to share some of her thoughts and observations about the political scene with me, while we were all waiting for the internet to resume. Her story was fascinating.

She was an older woman, and said she’d been a passionate political activist “back in the day” —  in younger, more agile years. Oh, she was deeply involved. But now, she said, though she still volunteered politically, she was feeling somewhat cynical and bitter. She told me, with great frustration, that only about 1/3 of Americans voted in the last midterm election. Yes, this particular ward has really good turn-out, but she thought that over-all statistic should be much higher by now, after all the effort and work to change things. The trouble, she said, was in the lack of education of children about the government.

We wondered, together, why things have changed so much and why more people don’t vote. She expressed sympathy about the ones who were so busy with kids and had jobs which didn’t give time off to vote — like struggling single mothers working for minimum wage, as she pointed out. She was also compassionate about the ones who believe that the whole system is rigged, or say, “what’s the point?” They believe their vote doesn’t matter because their needs don’t seem to matter to the politicians. These are the disempowered ones and there’s terrible suffering because of this.  But she was not sympathetic to the ones who really just don’t care enough to take the time to vote. She was angry about that.

Busy or not, rigged or not, I heartily agreed with her that we all should vote. We also agreed about how grave the situation in the world is now. It really is.

Then, from my mouth emerged a pep talk about not giving up. This is the time, I told her, to dig down and try harder. Keep persevering, amidst the obstacles and craziness. I said, and this is the time to pray.

There was a big silence for a second, when I said the “prayer” word.  It really was apparent that The Universe had brought us together for this beautiful, deeply connected moment. We had heard each other’s heart-felt despair and agreed, this is, indeed, the time to pray. “Yes,” she said quietly, “I’m praying.”  To me, our brief, but authentic connection was a prayer.

Oddly, at that moment, the internet suddenly came back on. A big buzz spread through the room. I looked behind me in the line, and there were perhaps 25 people in back of me, some patient, and some impatient, to do their early voting.   I was so impressed by the turn-out at this time, mid-morning. Then I was handed a ballot and trotted over to vote.

But in the last few words of that exchange with the volunteer, I saw some new hope in her eyes. I feel hopeful, too, because I believe people are waking up to their togetherness and their importance….the importance of their voice, their ray of Light, their contribution.. As each person realizes how significant she or he is, and how much their energy affects the health and happiness of so many others, then the world may change as we each take responsibility for our creation.

As it’s always said, transformation starts in the heart and mind of each individual first.  We each need to do our inner work to become judgment-free, bully-free, compassionate, respectful, wise, forgiving, and most especially, appreciative of others and our Divine, Infinite Self. It’s a powerful inside job, and it’s yours to do, and mine to do…for the benefit of us all.  For we are One; One consciousness, one heart, one being on the most fundamental level.  All this belief in separation is a really bad dream.

So, will you go vote? Can we effect change by voting? I think about it like this:  every vote is an intention. Every vote is an energetic impulse into the collective consciousness.  Why not make every effort you possibly can to do it?  By the way, I think early voting is still available all this weekend!

Together we can evolve, so don’t give up.  Identify the mental saboteur within, and keep aspiring to open your heart. This is the time.  If you need some help, remember to meditate, pray, visualize, whatever suits you, and, by all means, reach out. My job is to help. We are each an emanation of Spirit.  Spirit is in the house and at the polling place near you!

Shamanic Extraction: Clear & Shine

Have you, perhaps. been feeling out of sorts, out of balance, anxious, irritable, foggy, or depressed by the challenges of life these days?  Many of us are facing big challenges with health, relationships, healing the past, and/or finances. Because we are all one, we are all experiencing everything, on some level. We’re also collectively grieving the many tragedies of others, which we are very aware of through the media.

It may seem as if the dark side of life is much more visible than it’s ever been before. It seems everywhere, affecting every aspect of life, including health, relationships, nature, and sense of safety. Perhaps the darkness has always been here, to this degree, but because our awareness is increasing with deeper levels of collective awakening, we can’t go back to sleep now. There are points in the awakening process that can seem like long, dark tunnels (I’ve been there often)…but there is also, both at the end of the proverbial tunnel, and always right in front of us, an awareness of that beautiful Light shining brighter than ever. It’s the Light that we want to focus on now!

Where are you at this moment in time? Are you living in Light, struggling with darkness, or somewhere in the middle, and pretty up and down? Well, dear one, you have a choice. The choice is a moment to moment thing, and it might take a renewed commitment on your part to stay high vibrational. Given the chance, our chattering, defensive, and judgmental minds will high-jack the best of spiritual intentions, so let this serve as a reminder: Take a stand to shine your Light and keep seeking more Light!

My clients have been asking me lately, “what can I do to stay energetically clear of all this negativity? What protection is there from intrusive energies and entities?”  Those are very important questions to take seriously now.

Negativity (denser vibrational energy) is bombarding us fairly constantly. We’re exposed to lower-vibrational conditions because of pollution, food toxins, household toxins, news media coverage, political savagery, traffic congestion, hostile family members or co-workers, and, most especially, our own internalized negative messages from childhood or ancestral DNA inheritances!

Based on my 25 years of shamanic experience, I’d have to say that we’re also affected by other-dimensional entities and earth-bound energy cords with others, such as deceased loved ones, or ex-lovers, and, of course, our own disconnected soul parts, which affect our conscious wholeness and awareness of the Oneness. When soul loss occurs, then misplaced, denser energies can move in and they usually do take up residency — affecting well-being in a big way.

Where does this lower-vibrational, misplaced energy go when it moves in? If we are on the receiving or the giving end of it, it often exists trapped within our tissues, organs, and our etheric energy field. This affects body, mind, emotions, and Spirit. The energy we project outward, affects us internally, because we are energetically One. You know this to be true when, for example, you say some unkind words to another, or you are in conflict with a loved one – don’t you feel bad inside, even if you think you are “right”?  We can’t hurt others without hurting ourselves. We can’t harm others by our words, thoughts or actions, without doing harm to ourselves.

“Energy hygiene” is radically important now to keep your physical and spiritual life at a high vibration of health. It’s impossible for one person to suffer, without affecting the multitude. Likewise, a positive shift in one person, positively affects others. A clearing of self-defeating blockages or life-sucking attachments helps clear the collective consciousness. And when we shine our inner Light, the world not only notices our glow, but the vibration of our Light actually lifts others. It is said that one awakened person can affect 100,000 others. Think of the tremendous impact just on your own circle of family and friends when you are clear-headed, open-hearted, and loving!

I often remind my clients that their job is to do the basics:  to tune inward with regularity, take responsibility for your own “stuff,” meditate daily, eat well, sleep well, exercise, have fun, express your creativity, and together we can work on clearing and reclaiming blocked or energetically challenged parts of ourselves that keep us from shining. I encourage you to tune into your own energy field, and observe what’s going on. If you feel like you may have some negativity going on, and need a clearing, I’m offering a new, stand-alone tune-up session – a Shamanic Extraction tune-up, which lasts about 75 minutes and costs $150 when done by phone, or $155 in person.

This session goes deeper than the regular aura clearing sessions I have been offering, which are also quite affective with rebalancing the aura and chakras. However, with a Shamanic Extraction tune-up, I’m calling on my shamanic healing guides to go deeper, to clear karmic energy blockages (from past lives), other-dimensional blockages (entity attachments and intrusions), as well as the present-time aura blockages (usually based on “undigested” emotions) that might be affecting your health, energy level, mood, motivation or thinking. With this Shamanic Extraction session, I go through the same ceremony I use to do the soul retrieval work, calling in the Spirit Guides of the Seven Directions, an indigenous practice. When we call in Spirit, we invite in synchronicities, clarity, and miracles; I see miracles in every session, which is why I love this work. This work comes through me, and it is not “me” who does it.

Just to be clear, typically, the soul retrieval sessions regularly offered, include shamanic extraction, as well as longer discussion time, both before and after the journey, and sometimes, a longer journey time. The soul retrieval & extraction session, combining the two practices, lasts two hours and costs $230 by phone/skype or $240 in person.  Please note that a soul retrieval is NOT part of this 75-minute Shamanic Extraction clearing session.

The reason I’m offering this 75-minute Shamanic Extraction clearing, as a stand-alone session, is that my Spirit Guides told me to do it :-)).  I generally try really hard to listen to them! Also, you might notice that if time or money is a constraint, or if you don’t need a soul retrieval at this particular time, then the Shamanic Extraction clearing might be perfect to get back in balance.

The Shamanic Extraction is done via phone/skype or in person in the Chicago area. As always, if you are unsure which type of session would serve you best, please reach out to me and we can talk about the various options. I know this can be confusing, but I’m always reachable either by email at Paula@FromTheHeartCenter.com or at 773-791-8425.

The important thing, now, is to take a stand for living in the Light, not the darkness. With living in Light, there is an experience of joy and expansion. You feel lighter. You look alive and vibrant. Your relationships are more loving, collaborative, and connected.  When living in darkness, there is suffering, a sense of separateness, and disconnection from whatever is sacred to you…in other words, living in a state of lack. When you find that your thoughts have run amok and are bringing you down, into a state of lack and limitation, please remind yourself that it’s time to clear and shine –and know that you can!

 

Taking Refuge

While I don’t identify myself as a Buddhist, I resonate strongly with many of its concepts and practices. Its brilliant clarity about the fundamental practice of “taking refuge” really struck me the other evening, while present at a rare talk in Evanston, IL, by Her Eminence Mindrolling Jetsun Khandro Rinpoche. In truth, it made me realize once again that all the great spiritual paths lead us to the same one home…a place within: a refuge of safety, peace, truth, and joy. 

Rinpoche opened her talk with a reference to the grave state of the world today. It was personally daunting to hear an esteemed Tibetan Buddhist lama make reference to this global crisis occurring now. Somehow, some escapist part of me may have hoped she’d call this global catastrophe an illusion. But of course, the world is very real. Our eager little community that night, overly packed into a warm, small room, was waiting hungrily, as birdies in a nest might wait, for their mother to feed them.

The theme of Rinpoche’s talk was primarily on the significance of having compassion, and fed us, she did. She described the path, pointed us in the direction, and invited us to let our hearts crack open in compassion; for cultivating compassion is one of the greatest gifts, purpose and essential challenges of practicing Buddhism. However, in order to attain the selfless state of compassion, one must ceaselessly do much inner work. And one must take refuge within, in order to reach compassion.

As Rinpoche spoke in that beautifully anointed shrine room at Heartwood Center, filled with delicate Tibetan sacred objects, luscious flowers and elegant pictures of deities, I was moved by the simplicity of her words. She is an extraordinary, master teacher; Her deceptively matter-of-fact explanations stripped away the illusive smoke screen of the human mind. Yes, the world is real, but our minds flap and flounder in illusions. We suffer terribly because of these chattering, conflicted minds of ours, which live in the past and the future, but rarely in the present moment.

Rinpoche said that a key to finding peace within is to see things as they truly are, and to see each other in our sameness. Seeing the sameness is essential to experiencing compassion. Sadly, we humans get stuck so often in seeing differences. Humans struggle with fear of what is different, but also fear of what is like us – what mirrors the sameness in us that we so desperately want to reject.

We’re plagued with many conflicting emotions that tear us apart. We are a hot mess of reactivity, judgement, and self-involvement, or as Rinpoche said, “self-cherishing.”  In trendier terms, we’re self-absorbed and narcissistic.

Self-cherishing, Rinpoche said, constricts us. It narrows our views. It strangles our creative capacity. The mind becomes rigid and linear.  Most importantly, our true identity becomes masked. But underneath all that mental infrastructure – or inner jail, as I see it – there is a sacred Mind that exists in its true nature. Rinpoche’s words are underlined in my scrawling notes: Refuge is surrender to one’s true nature, to the Self (capital S), to who we truly are. For it is in our true Self, that we achieve compassion and peace.

Do you know who you truly are? You’re not your job or career. You’re not your role as a mother, father, sister, brother, niece, or aunt. You’re not your body. You’re not your troubled, reactive, fearful mind either.

When you uncover the true Self, what you experience is joy and peace. Despite what is going on around you. Despite the desperate state of human affairs. Within each of us, there is a place of refuge in the true Self. It’s a place of safety, freedom, creativity, and infinite connection to what is uniquely sacred to each of us. Take refuge, people. As we each find our true Self within, we will become a mighty force of good in the world. We can make that inner journey – it’s not as far as you think.

You may need a little help. Many of us are available to help. You might want to find your community – we find Self when in sacred community too. There is a way, but it’s an inside job, so do the inner work. Find your refuge for the sake of all. We need your compassion. We need your innate joy. We need to see the Light in your eyes, and to feel alive, safe, seen. When you take refuge, you bless us all. Look underneath all those thoughts. Look outside of time. It’s there, as close as your breath. Take refuge in your true Self.

Intimacy Starts Within

 

“He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.”
― Lao Tzu

Texting, tweeting, emails, sound bites; we now live in a world in which communication has been reduced to short, quasi-efficient snippets.  Perhaps the use of these things began as a way to stay better connected, but as we all know, that type of connection is very shallow.  It’s good for the basics of getting a communication task done, like announcing that you’re running late.  It’s not good for communicating anything that approaches intimacy.  Our ability to truly connect with each other is slipping away…

Deep Interpersonal communication is becoming a lost art, and, in my opinion, we need to urgently look at the source of that situation –for it is having dire effects on our culture; Our culture does not value or teach authenticity and, thus, people are losing their humanity. It seems to be getting harder and harder to see empathy and compassion in politics and government policies.  We see rampant, senseless crime instead.  We see inhumane treatment of animals, people, and the earth. In fact, we are being systematically programmed to be inauthentic and in denial of our deep disconnection.  We worry about our appearance, our money, our acquisitions, but not our hearts.

My fear is that the daily practice of communing within — with yourself and with whatever is sacred to you (like God, Spirit, the Higher Self) — will disappear like the dinosaurs. Meditation is a beautiful practice of self-intimacy, as is shamanic journeying (a form of meditation).  But one complaint I hear over and over is, “I don’t have time to meditate.”  This indicates that meditation is not valued or prioritized.  I honestly don’t know why it is so hard for us to value sitting still with ourselves.

In addition to entering into a really miraculous flow of one’s life, there are magical, mystical, subtle, and majestic terrains within, waiting to be explored and revealed when we practice daily meditation.  The nuance of subtle feeling states, the whisper of that famous “quiet voice within”, the thrill of synchronicities, ease of connections, unexpected opportunities, radical insights, extraordinary states of bliss…all this inner life is ours by birthright.  But if we don’t claim that territory, it will languish like fertile lands that go unfarmed, leaving us hungry for that which feeds the soul.  In short, we will become an automated, soul-less species.

What delivers us to soulful living, is simply to turn our gaze inward.  That requires pausing from the frenzy of life today.  It requires intention, breathing, and the spirit of an explorer – brave, open, curious, persevering in our quest to know ourselves and to be surprised in fact, by the rich abundance of the present moment.

Without connecting within, we can’t truly connect with others; we can’t share our tender vulnerability, our hungry hearts, or our loving compassion.  We can’t enjoy the comfort, adventure, and thrill of deepening relationships without intimacy.

Start a meditation practice, please, and stick with it!  Even five minutes a day, first thing in the morning, makes a difference.  Seek out what is personally sacred to you – it is a living presence within.  Connect with that – what a profound way to anchor your day and, in fact,  help humanity to step into its greatest potential!

If you need coaching or instruction in establishing a meditation or shamanic journeying practice, I can help you with that.  And if you are in the Chicago area, I’ll be leading a shamanic journey circle on Sunday, May 6, 1:30-4:30pm, in which you can connect intimately with your own spirit, in a loving ceremony of like-minded community.  For more information on that event, check it out here.

 

 

FROM THE INSIDE OUT

I just saw the Oscar-nominated film “Ladybird” and it brought me right back to my own teen years, and the teen years of my daughter.  What I loved about the film was that it held the frequently awkward space of intimacy, both within the self and with others, in a beautifully sacred way.  For the buried teen within us, it resurrects and celebrates that uniquely joyous, sometimes painful, hormonally chaotic and precious time of emerging individuality and loss of innocence.  It reminds us of what it feels like to play without knowing the rules; to feel your way through this huge thing that is life.

That teen in me seems to be saying hello lately, even as older age, on paper or by wrinkles, might project an image of wisdom.  I moved two weeks ago, and that particular event turned my life rather upside down. It was a happy, positive move, but it still created an upheaval and thrust me into unknown territory. I’ve felt kind of like an awkward teenager again, just like the heroine of Ladybird. Considering the past year’s political climate, the chaotic weather patterns, and the rollercoaster stock market this month, you might also find yourself feeling, as I do, just a little out of control.

When I was unpacking, I unearthed an old bumper sticker I had stashed away a while ago.  The bumper sticker says, “Let Go, Let Goddess.”  That’s been my mantra since I gratefully (and with perfect synchronicity) found it again!  Letting go and allowing a higher power (whatever that is for you) to carry you through difficult, unknown times is a lifesaver; it can return you to the thrill of living fully. It can make you feel like a teen again – alive – and experiencing your life unfolding with all the tumble of emotions that humans get to have.  As challenging as having emotions can be, I still wouldn’t trade them for numbness.

We all have within us a brilliant force of life and creativity that can’t be squashed.  Like the teen in Ladybird, it can take us into some very uncomfortable emotional places and also to the heights of bliss.  Learning to trust it and let it take the reins, in order to recreate your life, is the essence of walking a spiritual path.  As a teen, that authentic force can move mightily; but as adults, we might need to unlearn a lot of conditioning and release the resistance to change that we acquire as we age — in order to unleash that force’s life-imbuing power.

All the healing work I offer is given with the spirit of supporting you in peeling back the suffocating layers, in order to reclaim your authentic self. Over and over, the repressed divine self will call to you – in your dreams or fantasies, and in real-life opportunities. In order to return to feeling fully alive, we need to listen to that inner voice. We need to let go of the past and risk being present to the whirlwind of the here and now. We need to release the old patterns that prohibit us from taking on life as an unknown adventure, as it was in our earlier years. Finding that sacred, risk-taking hero or heroine within can be downright thrilling.

I love shamanic journeying and guided meditations because they are often a grand adventure.  Just like life, you’ll never know what you’ll find if you just let go and be present within the shamanic journey or meditation. Shamanic journeying and meditation can reveal guidance you’d never dreamed of, and insights that have been beyond your reach.

For the single women reading this, I want to draw your attention to a new virtual course (via conference call) that I’m offering called “Relationship Readiness.  As you may know, I just collaborated with Sue De Santo, Clinical Social Worker and Relationship Coach, to offer an in-person workshop in Chicago.  Now we are continuing our collaboration with this virtual, 4-part class series, so those outside of Chicago can experience it – or those in my area can take it from the comfort of their homes.  I’ll be leading two sessions that are completely shamanic journeying and guided meditation.  It has the potential to change your relationship history from the inside out – to free up that teen in you to attract the kind of relationship you’ve always wanted.  If you are interested, please read more details about it here.  And if you have to miss any of the classes, a recording will be available. Contact me for questions and registration.  Early-bird price of $219 ends on Feb. 14.

 

 

Burn Off Your Karma: Barriers to Love Class & Oneness Circle

 

journeycircleandmeditation2018 has swooped in like the splendid eagle. Many folks are talking about how different the energy feels this new year. It’s as if Spirit is loudly whispering in our collective ears, “grow, grow!” Can you feel the spiritual support of these challenging times building?  Yes, the external world is as troubled as last year….maybe more so…but internally, the fires of spiritual evolution are raging.  I say, stoke the fire! Let it burn off your karma, your stuckness, your confusion, and your fear!

How’s your love life doing in this first month of the new year?  How are those resolutions going? Perhaps you’re losing steam or even hitting the proverbial brick wall, despite your best intentions.  Well, here’s some “wind under your wings” that you can use to create lofty momentum for your heart-felt intentions to manifest in 2018…

For women who are single or in dating relationships, please join us for a workshop that helps break through the depressing loop of repetitious patterns and blockages in creating the love you want and need in your life. Check out “Overcoming Internal Barriers to Love” workshop on Sunday, Feb. 4, from 2pm-4:30pm in Chicago. Be prepared to ignite your innate capacity for romantic manifestation!

For men and women who want to clear out a bunch of inner conflict, raise their bliss capacity, and feel the peace and joy of Oneness, our monthly Oneness Deeksha Circle is meeting again this Tuesday night from 7:30pm -9pm in Chicago.

And for those who want to get serious about creating lasting lifestyle and spiritual changes in order to get healthier, more energetically balanced, more abundant, vibrant, and focused, please consider exploring private holistic health coaching and shamanic sessions.

I have 24 years of experience being a channel for my client’s spiritual wholeness and healing using the phenomenal, ancient methods of soul retrieval and extraction to address trauma and feeling stuck. Pair that with my other various tools for increasing relational happiness, and how to do your work in the world with passion and purpose.  Just contact me for a free consultation about how my soul retrieval work, readings, and/or holistic health coaching could assist you in igniting a phenomenal year of transformation.

The time is here and the stars are aligned.  Tuesday is a new moon….why wait? Take action now!  You won’t regret it, for there’s a ton of spiritual power now, supporting you to take the right kind of action that brings you closer to manifesting your heart’s desires.

 

 

 

Why the Goofy Hearts?

Valentine's DayDid you ever put your heart “out there” and get what feels like a big, empty, no-response from the universe?  I mean, a big, invalidating, nothing.  That’s happened to me in my dating life, in my creative efforts, in friendships at times, and in my career.  When we take the risk of opening ourselves, to be seen, and to be vulnerable, we risk feeling hurt when the offerings of our open heart are not appreciated or returned.  When this happens, our inner defense patterns and heart walls can get thicker. This process can start in childhood, when our inner-kid’s natural joy, exuberance, and loving nature got stomped on, perhaps by stressed-out, dysfunctional, or shut-down parents, bullying kids, or by the educational system itself. We learn to keep our guard up, to be like our peers, and to behave as parents, teachers, and other authority figures expect.

In dating, if we open up to another person, and they don’t match that emotional availability, there is a tendency for us to retreat to a place of isolation, resignation, or hopelessness. We take another person’s non-interest way too personally most of the time.  Truth is, it always has nothing to do with us.  But our vulnerable heart is like a friendly puppy – it just wants to love and be loved – and our ego-mind is like a soldier – it’s job is to preserve and protect us from harm.  Thus, heart and mind become bogged down waging a battle of inner-conflict, with an unconscious strategy operating to prevent future pain.

Staying in our comfort zones usually brings little gain.  To risk vulnerability and risk failing, is also to invite in huge success and greater happiness.  To be blunt, you usually have to take risks to achieve greater fulfillment and success (whatever success means to you).  Keeping our lives risk-free and playing it safe only serves to keep that status-quo predictability going….and for many of us self-growth warriors, the status quo is not where our spirit likes to hang out.  The spirit is always trying to move forward – to greater expansion.  For our true essence is a part of the universe, and as science has shown, we live in an ever-expanding universe.  The way of the Universal Spirit is one of constant change and expansion.  That expansive drive and ever-changing nature lives within our heart.

As you’ve been reading here, my friend and colleague Sue De Santo and I are giving a course called “Dating, Sexuality & Empowerment.” See all the details HERE.  It’s designed to help women break through those heart-protecting patterns and step more fully into their authentic, radiant, self-empowerment. When we break through the mental control that’s trying to preserve our safety with old, self-protecting patterns, our inner light comes pouring through. 

Having inner freedom endows us with an attractive force of love and joy that beams out to the world. We begin to flow with that ever-expanding universe within and without us….life brings to our door exactly what we need to keep circulating that joy and love of our spirit.  We attract the right people (including life partners), opportunities, and conditions to better serve the world and circulate our gifts, talents, and unique contributions.  

To promote this course, Sue and I made a video to put on facebook and youtube.  That’s what practitioners like us do to market our services.  Just part of the job.  But don’t think that it is ever easy for people like us to wear our hearts on our sleeves when we write blogs, when we promote our courses, sessions, and all the offerings we do.  Most of us who do this have had zero training in marketing – though we’ve had lots of training in the services we offer, but still this type of work seems to require continual self-promotion to spread the word.  That self-promotion is risky.  Speaking for myself, my particular shamanic and holistic coaching offerings are not mainstream, to say the least.  The older and wiser I get about the value of my contributions, however, the more I’m willing to be authentic, vulnerable, and open about what I do — in a world that is generally hugely resistant to change, complementary healing techniques, and vulnerability. 

So Sue and I made this video. Please check it out HERE and see the goofy hearts in it. At first we accidentally put a hearts filter on the video, chuckled about it, and then kept it on, with an intent to attract attention and lighten up this topic we’re teaching. To my surprise, it’s been received with kind of a glaringly silent, non-response on facebook.

I’m used to putting up simple photos of trees and getting a bunch of “likes” or “loves”…but I’m getting very little response with this video. The silence is deafening, as they say.  Perhaps some people are offended, don’t get it, or whatever.  But to me, it’s pretty darn goofy and a bit awkward to watch, and I thought I’d at least get a laughing emoji out of someone. However, I’m not taking it personally.  In fact, I’m laughing at myself each time I view it and see my own awkwardness and those goofy hearts. It’s my coyote medicine, for sure. Coyote brings me the gift of finding humor in my own silly antics.

Actually, coyote medicine aside, this course touches a powerful topic with very timely resonance to the awakening of the Divine Feminine now.  I’m absolutely in awe of the fantastic rise of women’s sense of spiritual empowerment now and I’ve always been eager to contribute to that awakening. From women suffragettes to feminists, to the path of the spiritual warriors among us, including the “me too’s”, this is deeply exciting and hopeful phenomenon to observe.

One thing I’ve learned along the way is to carry a certain “lightness of being” as a valued tool on the spiritual path.  If you can find a little loving humor about this mysterious drama of being human, it’s a very healthy thing.  And we know the power of levity at Halloween time, when we dress up to laugh at scary ghosts (the omnipresent reality of death), threatening pirates, ominous witches, and the super-heroes who fight the evils of crime, etc.  Or when we try to dress up like a 1940’s movie star, like I did in 2009.  I loved having fun with a bit of that Hollywood glam, probably because I needed to let that glam shadow side of me out to shine!  

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If you can laugh at yourself, and at the self-protective patterns devised by the ego, then you are not identified with that ego.  You are not your mind!  You are not that hurt, scared child who wasn’t seen, wasn’t appreciated, or somehow needed to be “controlled” by stressed out authority figures. To find humor in what is awful, sad, and downright life-invalidating, is to be free of those darker inner forces that keep us feeling frustrated, stuck, and less than miraculous. To be free inwardly is to experience the true bliss that is our essence, no matter how others treat us.  No matter whether they like our videos or not!

I’ll let you in on a little secret:  teachers always teach what they need to learn for themselves…and they usually get their lessons especially when they are preparing for a course. Being a good teacher, healer, coach, or therapist is to be a constant student of life and love. A good teacher is a model for that which they teach. I hope I can do that — I want to inspire you to live ever-expandingly beyond the status quo of your comfort zones in order to be a thriving, joyful human being.  We are not our fears, our resignation, our need to please, or our self-protection.  We are love and Light, eternally.

Looking for love?

photodune-6777212-paradigm-shift--xsAre you wondering why I am presenting a dating, sexuality and empowerment workshop now? The reason isn’t just the “me too” movement…though the timing with that is quite resonant. Having had my own, personal share of inappropriate, offensive, and abusive male harassment, like so many other women, I’ve had to claim my empowerment in a big way after years of suppression, inner conflict, and silence.

I had to wake up first, and realize that I had a voice and a right to boundaries, and that I needed to take a stand on behalf of my inner outrage and that of others who have suffered. In fact, I had to publicly call out a certain teacher I had many years ago, and when I did, about 25 other women came forward with stories of similar inappropriate experiences with him. But the details of that segment of my life is content for a future blog perhaps.

Right now, I want you to know that awakening extends into every corner of our lives, especially in relationships and in self-love. It’s never too late to emerge from the conditioned patterns we were taught by society…or the beliefs about relationships and sexuality, solidified in our childhood and repeating endlessly in later years. It’s those false, limiting beliefs and the subtle, but damaging conditioning that stifles our joy, and keeps us chasing after happiness in the form of external relationships. The truth is, relationships are really an inside job.  Yup, it truly is all about you! Since you can’t change others, the good news is that you can shift your own life, from the inside out.

Through years of dating, sexuality, and relationship turmoil, I learned the hard way that until my sense of worth, inner-knowing, and self-acceptance shifted, I would keep attracting the same type of unfulfilling relationships into my life. All my dating and relationship experiences have revolved around the dance of intimacy and lack there of.  What I took to be the “unavailability” of the other person, was really my own unavailability to myself, due to the cloudy perceptions that entangled my mind. These other people have mirrored to me, my own mental, emotional, and energetic barriers to love.

So as you can tell, this subject matter is close to my heart — and I’m hoping that it will also be calling some of you single women out there too.  I’m collaborating with a very experienced therapist and relationship coach, Sue De Santo, to facilitate both an in-person workshop here in Chicago, and a virtual class series (for out-of-towners and staying cozy-at-home in-towners). This exciting workshop partners energy work with energy psychology to loosen the grip of limiting patterns in order to expand your consciousness around relationships, dating, and sexuality — and change your life.  Do the inner work now and then let 2018 usher in that which your heart desires!

Here are the details and please spread the word if this post finds you happily partnered or married…or if you’re a man (this workshop is for women)….

                 DATING, SEXUALITY & EMPOWERMENT; Sexy is an inside job

         In-person workshop Sunday, Nov. 12, 1:00-3:30pm at Moving Life Studio, 5115 N. Ravenswood, 2nd Floor, Chicago, IL 60640  Fee: $49

AND/OR….

         Virtual, 4-Part Class Series (by teleconference) on Thursdays., Nov. 30, Dec. 7, 14, and 21.   Fee:  $219  *If you miss a class, you’ll have a recording of it.

****TAKE ONE OR BOTH CLASS OPTIONS!  EARLY REGISTRATION FOR ENTIRE PACKAGE (In-person and virtual series) – only $219 (plus a free gift) until Nov. 10, and then $249 after Nov. 10.

These classes are for you if:

  • You are a single woman, any sexual orientation welcome
  • You want the empowerment, freedom, and support to create what you need in a loving, committed relationship.
  • You want to break through old patterns using powerful energy tools and processes, including meditation, guided imagery, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique).
  • You want to ignite and energetically attract authentic love from within.

Topics for the Virtual 4-Part Class Series are:

  • Week 1 — The magnetic pull of unavailability and how to break through
  • Week 2 — How the kid in you sabotages romance
  • Week 3 — Learning to receive pleasure
  • Week 4 –- Flirting from the inside out

Facilitators:  Paula Rosenfeld, Shamanic practitioner, Holistic Health Coach, and author, www.fromtheheartcenter.com.

Sue De Santo, LCSW, Clinical Social Worker and Relationship Coach. www.suedesanto.com. 

FOR REGISTRATION and MORE INFO, CONTACT PAULA at 773-791-8425  or paula@fromtheheartcenter.com.