From vulnerability

Why the Goofy Hearts?

Valentine's DayDid you ever put your heart “out there” and get what feels like a big, empty, no-response from the universe?  I mean, a big, invalidating, nothing.  That’s happened to me in my dating life, in my creative efforts, in friendships at times, and in my career.  When we take the risk of opening ourselves, to be seen, and to be vulnerable, we risk feeling hurt when the offerings of our open heart are not appreciated or returned.  When this happens, our inner defense patterns and heart walls can get thicker. This process can start in childhood, when our inner-kid’s natural joy, exuberance, and loving nature got stomped on, perhaps by stressed-out, dysfunctional, or shut-down parents, bullying kids, or by the educational system itself. We learn to keep our guard up, to be like our peers, and to behave as parents, teachers, and other authority figures expect.

In dating, if we open up to another person, and they don’t match that emotional availability, there is a tendency for us to retreat to a place of isolation, resignation, or hopelessness. We take another person’s non-interest way too personally most of the time.  Truth is, it always has nothing to do with us.  But our vulnerable heart is like a friendly puppy – it just wants to love and be loved – and our ego-mind is like a soldier – it’s job is to preserve and protect us from harm.  Thus, heart and mind become bogged down waging a battle of inner-conflict, with an unconscious strategy operating to prevent future pain.

Staying in our comfort zones usually brings little gain.  To risk vulnerability and risk failing, is also to invite in huge success and greater happiness.  To be blunt, you usually have to take risks to achieve greater fulfillment and success (whatever success means to you).  Keeping our lives risk-free and playing it safe only serves to keep that status-quo predictability going….and for many of us self-growth warriors, the status quo is not where our spirit likes to hang out.  The spirit is always trying to move forward – to greater expansion.  For our true essence is a part of the universe, and as science has shown, we live in an ever-expanding universe.  The way of the Universal Spirit is one of constant change and expansion.  That expansive drive and ever-changing nature lives within our heart.

As you’ve been reading here, my friend and colleague Sue De Santo and I are giving a course called “Dating, Sexuality & Empowerment.” See all the details HERE.  It’s designed to help women break through those heart-protecting patterns and step more fully into their authentic, radiant, self-empowerment. When we break through the mental control that’s trying to preserve our safety with old, self-protecting patterns, our inner light comes pouring through. 

Having inner freedom endows us with an attractive force of love and joy that beams out to the world. We begin to flow with that ever-expanding universe within and without us….life brings to our door exactly what we need to keep circulating that joy and love of our spirit.  We attract the right people (including life partners), opportunities, and conditions to better serve the world and circulate our gifts, talents, and unique contributions.  

To promote this course, Sue and I made a video to put on facebook and youtube.  That’s what practitioners like us do to market our services.  Just part of the job.  But don’t think that it is ever easy for people like us to wear our hearts on our sleeves when we write blogs, when we promote our courses, sessions, and all the offerings we do.  Most of us who do this have had zero training in marketing – though we’ve had lots of training in the services we offer, but still this type of work seems to require continual self-promotion to spread the word.  That self-promotion is risky.  Speaking for myself, my particular shamanic and holistic coaching offerings are not mainstream, to say the least.  The older and wiser I get about the value of my contributions, however, the more I’m willing to be authentic, vulnerable, and open about what I do — in a world that is generally hugely resistant to change, complementary healing techniques, and vulnerability. 

So Sue and I made this video. Please check it out HERE and see the goofy hearts in it. At first we accidentally put a hearts filter on the video, chuckled about it, and then kept it on, with an intent to attract attention and lighten up this topic we’re teaching. To my surprise, it’s been received with kind of a glaringly silent, non-response on facebook.

I’m used to putting up simple photos of trees and getting a bunch of “likes” or “loves”…but I’m getting very little response with this video. The silence is deafening, as they say.  Perhaps some people are offended, don’t get it, or whatever.  But to me, it’s pretty darn goofy and a bit awkward to watch, and I thought I’d at least get a laughing emoji out of someone. However, I’m not taking it personally.  In fact, I’m laughing at myself each time I view it and see my own awkwardness and those goofy hearts. It’s my coyote medicine, for sure. Coyote brings me the gift of finding humor in my own silly antics.

Actually, coyote medicine aside, this course touches a powerful topic with very timely resonance to the awakening of the Divine Feminine now.  I’m absolutely in awe of the fantastic rise of women’s sense of spiritual empowerment now and I’ve always been eager to contribute to that awakening. From women suffragettes to feminists, to the path of the spiritual warriors among us, including the “me too’s”, this is deeply exciting and hopeful phenomenon to observe.

One thing I’ve learned along the way is to carry a certain “lightness of being” as a valued tool on the spiritual path.  If you can find a little loving humor about this mysterious drama of being human, it’s a very healthy thing.  And we know the power of levity at Halloween time, when we dress up to laugh at scary ghosts (the omnipresent reality of death), threatening pirates, ominous witches, and the super-heroes who fight the evils of crime, etc.  Or when we try to dress up like a 1940’s movie star, like I did in 2009.  I loved having fun with a bit of that Hollywood glam, probably because I needed to let that glam shadow side of me out to shine!  

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If you can laugh at yourself, and at the self-protective patterns devised by the ego, then you are not identified with that ego.  You are not your mind!  You are not that hurt, scared child who wasn’t seen, wasn’t appreciated, or somehow needed to be “controlled” by stressed out authority figures. To find humor in what is awful, sad, and downright life-invalidating, is to be free of those darker inner forces that keep us feeling frustrated, stuck, and less than miraculous. To be free inwardly is to experience the true bliss that is our essence, no matter how others treat us.  No matter whether they like our videos or not!

I’ll let you in on a little secret:  teachers always teach what they need to learn for themselves…and they usually get their lessons especially when they are preparing for a course. Being a good teacher, healer, coach, or therapist is to be a constant student of life and love. A good teacher is a model for that which they teach. I hope I can do that — I want to inspire you to live ever-expandingly beyond the status quo of your comfort zones in order to be a thriving, joyful human being.  We are not our fears, our resignation, our need to please, or our self-protection.  We are love and Light, eternally.

Looking for love?

photodune-6777212-paradigm-shift--xsAre you wondering why I am presenting a dating, sexuality and empowerment workshop now? The reason isn’t just the “me too” movement…though the timing with that is quite resonant. Having had my own, personal share of inappropriate, offensive, and abusive male harassment, like so many other women, I’ve had to claim my empowerment in a big way after years of suppression, inner conflict, and silence.

I had to wake up first, and realize that I had a voice and a right to boundaries, and that I needed to take a stand on behalf of my inner outrage and that of others who have suffered. In fact, I had to publicly call out a certain teacher I had many years ago, and when I did, about 25 other women came forward with stories of similar inappropriate experiences with him. But the details of that segment of my life is content for a future blog perhaps.

Right now, I want you to know that awakening extends into every corner of our lives, especially in relationships and in self-love. It’s never too late to emerge from the conditioned patterns we were taught by society…or the beliefs about relationships and sexuality, solidified in our childhood and repeating endlessly in later years. It’s those false, limiting beliefs and the subtle, but damaging conditioning that stifles our joy, and keeps us chasing after happiness in the form of external relationships. The truth is, relationships are really an inside job.  Yup, it truly is all about you! Since you can’t change others, the good news is that you can shift your own life, from the inside out.

Through years of dating, sexuality, and relationship turmoil, I learned the hard way that until my sense of worth, inner-knowing, and self-acceptance shifted, I would keep attracting the same type of unfulfilling relationships into my life. All my dating and relationship experiences have revolved around the dance of intimacy and lack there of.  What I took to be the “unavailability” of the other person, was really my own unavailability to myself, due to the cloudy perceptions that entangled my mind. These other people have mirrored to me, my own mental, emotional, and energetic barriers to love.

So as you can tell, this subject matter is close to my heart — and I’m hoping that it will also be calling some of you single women out there too.  I’m collaborating with a very experienced therapist and relationship coach, Sue De Santo, to facilitate both an in-person workshop here in Chicago, and a virtual class series (for out-of-towners and staying cozy-at-home in-towners). This exciting workshop partners energy work with energy psychology to loosen the grip of limiting patterns in order to expand your consciousness around relationships, dating, and sexuality — and change your life.  Do the inner work now and then let 2018 usher in that which your heart desires!

Here are the details and please spread the word if this post finds you happily partnered or married…or if you’re a man (this workshop is for women)….

                 DATING, SEXUALITY & EMPOWERMENT; Sexy is an inside job

         In-person workshop Sunday, Nov. 12, 1:00-3:30pm at Moving Life Studio, 5115 N. Ravenswood, 2nd Floor, Chicago, IL 60640  Fee: $49

AND/OR….

         Virtual, 4-Part Class Series (by teleconference) on Thursdays., Nov. 30, Dec. 7, 14, and 21.   Fee:  $219  *If you miss a class, you’ll have a recording of it.

****TAKE ONE OR BOTH CLASS OPTIONS!  EARLY REGISTRATION FOR ENTIRE PACKAGE (In-person and virtual series) – only $219 (plus a free gift) until Nov. 10, and then $249 after Nov. 10.

These classes are for you if:

  • You are a single woman, any sexual orientation welcome
  • You want the empowerment, freedom, and support to create what you need in a loving, committed relationship.
  • You want to break through old patterns using powerful energy tools and processes, including meditation, guided imagery, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique).
  • You want to ignite and energetically attract authentic love from within.

Topics for the Virtual 4-Part Class Series are:

  • Week 1 — The magnetic pull of unavailability and how to break through
  • Week 2 — How the kid in you sabotages romance
  • Week 3 — Learning to receive pleasure
  • Week 4 –- Flirting from the inside out

Facilitators:  Paula Rosenfeld, Shamanic practitioner, Holistic Health Coach, and author, www.fromtheheartcenter.com.

Sue De Santo, LCSW, Clinical Social Worker and Relationship Coach. www.suedesanto.com. 

FOR REGISTRATION and MORE INFO, CONTACT PAULA at 773-791-8425  or paula@fromtheheartcenter.com.

 

 

DATING ROLLBACK!

FreeMeditationLogo    What if you could turn back the clock in your dating and relationship life – in order to be free of the years of disappointments, heartbreaks, projections and fears?  Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have had the wisdom in your younger years that you’re acquiring now in your current awakening self?  Maybe you’ve heard the advice about “letting go” and being “open,” but are you able to practice these things? Or is a part of you shut down or disillusioned about dating and the desire for a fulfilling relationship?

I don’t know if it’s possible to recapture our innocence, but I strongly believe we can regain our trust. How powerful to be able to trust yourself, and to know that some kind of power greater than yourself has your back – and is moving you towards your good, if only you’d allow that!

Would you like to be able to offer another person your authentic vulnerability, trust, natural sexiness, and commitment—the authentic you that existed before you started protecting your heart and disregarding the higher wisdom of your spirit?  What a gift it is to stand in your own truth – to feel empowered, self-confident, and deeply attractive in your openness to love! How freeing would it be to let go of needing a relationship to feel whole? Wouldn’t it be a relief to stop stressing about relationships and simply relax into energetically drawing the perfect relationship to you, in the right time and place?

The problem with having traumatic dating and relationship experiences in the past, is that our egos develop compensating behavior to protect us from possible future harm.  Our perceptions become colored by past hurts.  We hang on to the hurts and armor our hearts to feel safe.  We come up with excuses (too busy, too tired, too stressed) to open up to new encounters and unknown experiences.  We fall into ruts of overthinking and subtle avoidance.  We’d rather just deal with the devil we know…for without venturing outside our comfort zone, we may just attract the same old type of relationship with a different face, but a frustrating familiarity.

You can break through this self-sabotage. Dating and sexuality is an inside job;  If you are a single woman and are looking for group support to break through your internal barriers to love – then I have some upcoming classes for you!  (Men and committed women, sorry!  There will be other forthcoming classes for you in the future…)

I will be teaching an experiential in-person workshop, along with a virtual course series, with my collaborator in empowerment, Sue DeSanto, LCSW, a Clinical Social Worker and Relationship Coach. We are going to be using energy tools to actually shift your vibration and bring you back to center…to rollback patterns so you can truly ignite love from within.  You can take the in-person workshop if you’re in the Chicagoland area or just take the virtual course if you’re outside the area.  I especially encourage you to sign up for both, if possible!

What’s included in these classes:

Meditation, guided imagery, holistic coaching, Deeksha, essential oils, and the powerful tool of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique, also called Tapping).  Together, Sue and I have over 44 years of experience.  Add that to the power of working in a group on shared goals!  Group support exponentially affects positive outcomes.  Nothing moves mountains like feeling supported, and Sue and I will be joyfully bringing our experience and spiritual gifts to support your transformation.

So if you want to start the new year empowered, sexy, and clear from the inside out, then please join us.  There is a big early-registration discount of $30, and a free gift, if you sign up for the entire package – the in-person workshop plus the 4-week virtual series.  Here is a summary of the class events and pricing, along with the registration links:

Dating, Sexuality & Empowerment; Sexy is an inside job

In-person Workshop, Sunday, Nov. 12, 1:00 – 3:30pm at Moving Life Studio, 5115 N. Ravenswood, 2nd floor, Chicago, IL.

4-Part Virtual Course via teleconference:  Thursdays, 7:00-9:00pm, Nov. 30, Dec. 7, 14, 21

Pricing:

In-person workshop alone: $49

Virtual series alone:  $219

Whole Package (In-person plus Virtual Series):  $249 or….

Early-bird Registration by Monday, Nov.10:  $219 for entire package, including the in-person and 4-part  virtual course, plus a free gift!

 

One day workshop registration link:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dating-sexuality-empowerment-sexy-is-an-inside-job-tickets-39029102095?aff=utm_source%3Deb_email%26utm_medium%3Demail%26utm_campaign%3Dnew_event_email&utm_term=eventurl_text

 

4-Part Virtual Series registration link and package option with early registration discount:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dating-sexuality-empowerment-sexy-is-an-inside-job-in-person-workshop-plus-virtual-4-week-course-tickets-39026311749?aff=utm_source%3Deb_email%26utm_medium%3Demail%26utm_campaign%3Dnew_event_email&utm_term=eventurl_text

 

****NOTE:  IF YOU CAN’T ATTEND ANY OF THE 4 VIRTUAL CLASSES, NO WORRIES – YOU WILL BE GIVEN A RECORDING.

If you have any questions about the offerings or about registration, please contact me at

paula@fromtheheartcenter.com  or  call 773-791-8425

and click HERE for more workshop details and facilitator bios!

 

 

 

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A PRAYER FOR DATING & EARTH DAY

GardenThere’s one prayer that I have highly recommended for years, and used in service of creating my own life’s work, but in one certain area of my life, I haven’t employed it. I’ve been afraid to truly let go enough to pray in this particular arena, in this particular way. That arena is romance, and my fear is that if I truly surrender, I won’t get what I want.  It’s not my preference to be single, and I’ve tried persistently to change the situation as best I can.  As I see it now, even though I’ve prayed for manifestation of a partner in the many various ways that I’ve been taught to pray, it hasn’t worked for a reason. I’ve probably tried to solve the problem from the level of mind that it was created by. As Einstein has pointed out, this just doesn’t work.  In my heart, I know there’s one way of prayer that I haven’t been ready to do.

I’ve certainly had my share of extremely significant and precious relationships; each one lasted until they were finished. Not a unique story for many of us. Yet, I found myself, recently, throwing my hands up in the air, and sighing the proverbial, “I give up”. I was at a new level of despair, frustration and, ultimately, surrender – exactly what was needed, evidently, for my Divine to deliver a big, wake-up message.

Spirit’s breakthrough message came to me via a couple of coffee dates that ironically validated the extraordinary power of intention to manifest what we think we want. But what we manifest may not always be what we really need. The dates left me dazzled by Spirit’s notorious sense of humor, and I eventually saw a big flaw in the prayer technique I’ve been using in my search for a significant other.

For example, I’ve wanted to meet a potential loved one who adores animals just as much as I do. Recently, I was requesting of my Divine that this ideal person have a dog or two, since my landlord doesn’t permit dogs. (I’d imagined enjoying them vicariously, so to speak). I’ve been longing to have a significant relationship with some pets! Sure enough, I met someone with two dogs….and six cats too, bless her heart. Unfortunately, I had forgotten to remind Spirit that I have a low-level cat allergy. My own two beloved cats (now deceased) were fairly manageable for my allergy – but six cats would send me over the edge into asthma.

Dating wake-up call #2: Because I have a few food sensitivities, I can be a bit of a challenge (in some people’s eyes) to dine with. But I am so “over” having to justify certain food avoidances to people. So I’ve been asking my Divine for someone who understands and respects healthy, mindful eating. Who did I attract, you’re wondering? I called in a date with a woman with massive food allergies, (which I have deep, deep compassion for), but her severe allergies include both cats and dogs. Darn, I had forgotten to tell Spirit that my ideal partner, though loving dogs, would not be allergic to them, even allergic to non-allergenic dogs!

Trying to stay on top of all my particular specifications and expectations is exhausting. I can’t think of every single angle, polish my prayers, visualize, and expect my Divine not to have a great laugh at my expense! Here is the big “a-ha” that came a few weeks ago: I’ve got this particular idea of who I think will make me happy, and what I think will make me happy… and I’m expecting Spirit to be like a corporate head hunter who will fill the slot with exactly what I believe I want.

It’s like I have a job opening, and I want my Divine to fill it pronto with someone who has all the right qualifications. Like it’s all about me and my wants … What’s wrong with this picture?

What I see is that I have it all backwards. I need to dwell on what I have to offer, not what I want to get. I suspect things would work much better if I follow my own prayer advice and truly surrender. It’s the “truly” that is really hard.

The prayer goes something like this, and you can direct it to whatever Higher Power is sacred to you personally: “Use me. You know my desires, passions, skills and talents, dear Spirit…Let me please be a channel of your love. In service, Spirit, let me be joyful. Let me add to the world’s good. How, and with whom this might manifest is up to you, dear Spirit, so I let go of the reigns and trust in your wisdom and guidance.”

How this will show up in my dating life, remains to be seen. I’ll keep you posted! I do know that Spirit holds a vision for me, and everyone else, which is truly good and life-supportive. It’s a much higher perspective than my own.

And how does this prayer relate to Earth Day? With eyes wide open in an increasingly transparent world, we all are seeing the masses of politicians and world leaders who, in their humanity, have been severely limited by the consciousness they hold. The world’s a mess due to consciousness that has been conditioned by centuries of fear. The structures that we have taken for granted are crumbling in the wake of rising global awareness and dissension. Ugliness and cruelty also abound rampantly, seemingly hopelessly mired and motivated in fear.

We watch now as our beautiful Earth is being destroyed by this pressure cooker called life in 2017, co-created by all of us. Humans have used, manipulated, and transgressed the natural world to serve our own needs. We have forced our will. All the years of mindless taking from Earth is destroying her. Many of us have seen these times coming for years, but have been unable to influence the consciousness of “those” in control of how money is spent to create this lifestyle we share on Earth. We watch in horror. Some of us march with anger or hope.

As in the state of surrender needed for dating help, perhaps you might join me in humbly praying to Spirit today for help for the world. My Divine has me  writing blog posts, contacting politicians, protesting, setting an example, going back to school to become an integrative nutrition coach, and of course recycling. I am doing these things, but want to do so much more. I want to experience more than give glaring looks at littered sidewalks, shake my head at unhealthy fast food joints, and walk past grocery stores filled with packaged, processed, sugar-laden saboteurs, waiting to destroy someone’s health and happiness. I want to educate, wake-up others, and transform this life-denigrating mess we’ve created.

I hereby pray, and please join me if you feel so moved, to declare: I humbly offer my love, talents, skills, and passion to make this existence better for my own life, the life of our beautiful Earth, all her wondrous creatures, and the generations to come who might never know a glorious late April day like this one (at the rate we’re going), with flowers and trees a’blooming, water coming from faucets, air that is still fairly breathable, and, thank you Spirit, organically, humanely raised food options in the store … because organic farmers get it. Immense thanks to all those who get the value of life, of all things natural, of love, peace, and beauty… and are living in their truth and not in fear.

What is your prayer today? Can you let go and trust Spirit to use your talents, passion, and actions to give to the world what it needs for transformation? If you feel frustrated, confused, fearful, or blocked, please consider taking a step toward faith and action. I urge you to strengthen your bond with the personal Divine of your heart, whatever that looks like for you – so that you can be led to serve, to give, to be a sharer of Light who transforms this chaos and destruction going on now.

If you are feeling that you can’t really “turn it over” to a Divine that you don’t trust, have I got a recommendation for you! There will be another big Oneness event happening on July 1 and 2, in Chicagoland and other parts of the country. It will be a rare chance to strengthen your bond with your personal Divine by leaps and bounds. It will help you connect, expand, brighten your Light, listen within, take action, and create change with your very own awakening consciousness. The event is called The Phenomenon and the Gift. The teachings are live-streamed from Oneness University in India with highly enlightened teachers. Please check out the Chicago event HERE.

If you want to see other locations in the country and world for this incredibly powerful event, look HERE

For the Chicago event, the deadline for the early registration discount is April 30, so don’t delay. There are even payment plans options available for this event!

Wishing you all a day of awe and gratitude for the Earth… and the courage to trust, to let go, and also to take action where you are Divinely guided.

 

Claim The Power Within!

AkashicrecordconsultWhat a wake-up call for many people who were hoping that the presidential election would turn out differently. Many of us want change, no argument there – but everyone has concepts about how that change ought to take place. As it turns out, the saying, “expect the unexpected” has never seemed truer.

I have to believe that what is going on now, in the aftermath of the election, will turn out to be for the higher good of all, in one way or another, even if it is expressing as grief, depression, anxiety, and fear for many folks right now. Yet, what I know is that the President of this country, like each of us, is a channel for Spirit to move through….and Spirit moves very unpredictably, quite often. Like the Hindu Goddess Kali, Spirit sometimes heals by way of destruction in order to create change. So don’t doubt that somehow, in some way, Spirit has a plan in operation. Often we only see the value of an orchestration of events in hindsight. It’s too soon to fully grasp now, but let’s have faith that more will be revealed.

In my own life, Kali energy has taken away much of the identity I formed from societal conditioning. I understand now that those unconscious beliefs that have shaped me needed to be recognized first, and then released, in order for a more authentic expression of the Higher Self to emerge. The process has been very challenging at times. Some spiritual paths consider this process a death of the ego. It has expressed for me as disillusionment, loss, and grief at various times.

Many people are in despair and disillusionment now. My heart breaks for the younger generation, including my millennial daughter and the young, vulnerable television watchers, whose trust and faith in equality, respect, and justice has been thoroughly rattled in this election campaign.

Herein hides the gift amidst the disillusionment and chaos following this election: What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Let’s not let unkindness, accusations, mistakes, and lack of respect break us. To the best of your ability, please keep looking within to claim the gold treasure that ever renews us with hope, strength, perseverance, and faith. This is the real victory; to find that eternally creative, resource-rich spark of consciousness that survives in each of us, in every generation, in every disappointment, every travesty, and every slaughter of what is just and loving. The victory lies in finding the sacred, eternal spark within, and claiming it as your own.

When each of us discovers, for herself or himself, who we really are outside of the ego’s parade of power and the mind’s fear of the unknown, what we shall have is collective spiritual power. This power can never be destroyed. The win is that we are being challenged to stand in our individual and collective spiritual power that comes from finding our way home to center. We find our way home to inner peace, balance, and acceptance. Action will emerge, in the right time and in a perfect way.

Sometimes we just don’t know what we have until we lose it. Many of us, en masse, have just seen what we’ve lost. We’ve had to be collectively awakened from unconsciousness and the stuckness of patterns of reactivity. This time in history is our wake-up time.

So please work on you…find your inner Light and shine it so that others may know the way. Many others need to awaken. Sometimes it takes that proverbial thump on the head to get through. Consider yourself trumped and thumped.

Moving forward, try this:

  1. When you react with fear, negativity, and anger, first just observe your reaction. You may notice as you practice observation how automatic is your typical response to events you don’t like – to the “what is.”
  1. Notice also, that there’s a story rumbling around in your mind when you react to the “what is.” The story usually involves blaming someone or some thing for whatever unpleasant is going on within your self.
  1. Breath and observe your story. Yes, your mind has made up a story – an interpretation – of what’s going on. Invite yourself to remember that you are not your story. It’s not necessarily a true story. It’s probably based on some old wound you’re still stuck in. Who are you if you let go of the story? You are that witness self who observes the story. You are That. I am That. We are That which is a living, creative consciousness – free, eternal, fully alive in the present moment. Claim That! This is your authentic self, your Higher Self. This is your spiritual birthright of creative, energetic power.
  1. Open to your Higher Self. Identify with the Higher Self, rather than the victim of your story. Allow this energy of Higher Self to radiate through you. You can make this your practice, and you will be the channel through which Spirit expresses its brilliance in this world.

Let what is not real fall away — for it will. This is a time to allow the power of Spirit to work through you – to be the most open channel for Spirit that you can be. This is a process. This is the spiritual path, and be gentle with yourself as you make your way.

It’s really about accepting the “what is” now. Yes, there’s that spiritual directive again. We can’t create change until we first accept the “what is, ” as opposed to resisting it. The “what is” takes many, many forms, and it’s so often the form of the unexpected. It may not look like what you’ve wanted. It may break your heart. It may bust your illusions. Let them break wide open, and just put one foot in front of the other. Keep looking within to anchor in your guiding Light. And Chop wood, carry water… ancient wisdom sounds like a perfect place to land right now.

Boo! Halloween Channeling

Halloween design with haunted house

Are you frightened my darling? On top of it being Halloween, a time when the veils between dimensions are most thin, the world seems to be spinning out of control. Along with rampant Cubs frenzy, my neighborhood is littered with skulls arising from still green lawns, bed-sheet ghosts floating above RIP gravestones, and other charmingly deathly décor. But none of these things are as scary to me as my desk stacked high with unfiled papers, reams of never-to-be read emails piling up in my mailbox, dishes in the sink, and the constant ding of texts claiming residence on my cell phone.

I know the speedy intensity of these times is both alarming to some and to others, incredibly exciting and stimulating. There seems to be a regular state of chaos flowing through torrents of unexpected events happening quite regularly most days: Airplane disasters, news-breaking crimes, record-setting storms, relentless Wiki-leaks and cyber-attacks, car, phone and toy recalls, and other endlessly alarming global events. There are also incredible stories of miraculous healings, poignant tales of inspiration and hope, scientific discoveries, and breakthroughs in medicine. There are also so many of us now talking about peace and Oneness, which is thrilling!

Through the media, we hear it all. Are you overwhelmed? Do you find the “unexpected” nerve-wracking or does it excite or energize you? I confess I’ve been in the overwhelmed camp lately.

I’ve been watching the World Series on television. I don’t usually watch t.v. much, but as a Chicagoan, I’ve been feeling anxious for days for the Cubs, and glued to the television each game night…and I’m not typically a sports fan! Still, I’ve been choosing to watch the games, rather than attend to the slew of other things in my home that need doing. There is something incredibly addictive and distracting about the anxiety-inducing World Series and the general chaos going on in the background (called LIFE). Even with an impressive meditation routine (if I must say so myself), and an equally diligent exercise and healthy-eating regimen, I am feeling both hyped up and tired at the same time.

This is coming along with the tsunami of presidential and political campaigns and upcoming election day – so nerve-wracking. Observing the constant tension in myself and those in my sphere fills me with compassion for humanity’s vulnerability; for the speed and quantity of stimulation is so ramped up that many of us seem over-run by it. Lateness, snappish driving reactions, missed appointments, forgotten tasks, menopausal moments, little mistakes, drinking too much, eating too much, not sleeping enough…feeling tired; This is what I observe in people around me.

Are we supposed to be getting used to this intensity as the new normal? Is there really no going back to feeling calm, well-rested, organized, and innocently optimistic?

The other day, I was discussing with someone whether the upcoming winter might be colder than normal, as has been predicted. The woman said, you can look to a horse’s winter coat as a sign – a thicker coat means a colder winter ahead. Evidently, horses are able to  instinctively grow more hair. That’s how connected these beautiful creatures are. We are animals; I wondered what my body might subtly be communicating or if I could even hear or see its message amidst the loud clatter of society’s group mind nowadays.

What I know with certainty is that my body is craving orange vegetables; for I had a dream about sweet potatoes the other night and butternut squash the next! That was bizarre and exciting to me because it’s an easy message to decipher: eat more sweet potatoes and squash, which I’ve been doing with pleasure. Either that or the Great Pumpkin has invaded my dream life!

Unfortunately my body is actually communicating very audibly, now that I think about it, when I’m around too many people and too much traffic – which is most of the time. It’s grumbling irritably, “I can’t stand all the noise! I want to be alone!” This particularly high sensitivity lately, despite the usually balancing routines and patterns, alarms me, for being a hermit doesn’t fit my image of living in Oneness. So I asked one of my Spirit Guides, the Cosmic one, for some higher guidance. This is my Guide’s response and I’d like to share it in the event that it might speak to you as well:

“Get real and come down from the clouds. This is your world now. Put one foot in front of the other and slug through this soup of stimulation. It’s a great way to discern what, and who, is yours. You will bounce off what is not meant to be yours – whether people or things – and by letting go of your previous self-image, you’ll end up with a new you, at least the authentic ‘you’ of this moment. Yes, life is speedy now and you can’t keep up with all the change. But open up to it anyway. You’ve lost control of your email and you’ve lost control of your time – in fact, perhaps you’ve lost your very mind. Good for you!

It’s time to go with the flow and don’t judge it. Relax into the roller-coaster ride because, yes, there is no going back. It’s time to let go. All you truly have right now is this unique moment, so enjoy it to the fullest. See your fear of unpredictability. See what falls away. Go easy on yourself. Your life can’t be perfectly organized and efficient if you say you want to live fully. Enjoy your anxiety, your imperfections, and the miracles too – watch it all with humor and appreciation. Don’t resist the flow of life. Oh yes, and breath deeply.”

So it’s that again – breath deeply. Why do I forget that so often? I tend to hold my breath when anxious. Thank you Cosmic Guide; I needed the reminder. We’re all having a human experience … and this is what being human is like now. It’s intense, exciting, scary, and often unpredictable. It’s especially miraculous too!

So pardon me Cleveland, but ‘hey Chicago, what do you say, Cubs are gonna win today!” I’m a sports fan and I didn’t even know it. If that can change, what other miraculous possibilities does the future hold, I wonder! Hello Great Pumpkin, bring it!

 

Fairy Tales Can Come True…

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“….it can happen to you, If you’re young at heart”. Remember the song that Frank Sinatra and Walt Disney made so famous? If you aren’t familiar with it or would like a boost of innocence, wisdom, and sweet hope, have a listen:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=anlz3EuuhWo

The song is a classic because it speaks to the hunger in so many of us to recapture our innocent joy and the fulfillment of our youthful passion and dreams. Even if your childhood was challenging, as so many childhoods are, perhaps you can remember certain times or activities that brought you great joy and a sense of autonomy — or a connection to something bigger than your family.

For me, getting on my bicycle seems to instantly conjure a powerful memory of joyfully riding my bike alone, at about age 10, to my piano lessons at the home of Mrs. Bonebreak (yes, it was really her name!). She was my piano teacher who lived about 6 or 7 blocks away in our subdivision. I know it wasn’t far, but I guess part of the thrill was feeling a little like a grown-up, out on a mission after school, without parental supervision or my younger sister tagging along.

Perhaps part of the joy was also about my dreams of creating music. In the beginning, I think I had fantasies of being a great piano player someday. Unfortunately, my first big recital, in front of maybe a hundred or more people, was nerve-wrackingly overwhelming and, in fact traumatizing, causing me to toss my dreams of future piano playing. I am not going to blame my parents for letting me quit – been there, done that. And I really wasn’t all that talented, to be honest. Nevertheless, live music can move me now to blissful tears of joy.

But I digress; the point I’m trying to make is that when we are young, we have innocent hope, and we have dreams. As we age, “life” happens to our heart-felt dreams, and they begin to calcify. Perhaps we settle for less than what we had been hoping for. Perhaps loss, disappointment, self-judgment, and resignation creep in, along with hectic schedules, grown-up responsibilities, diminishing physical vitality and just plain not as much fun…need I say more? Can you relate a bit?

As our fun shrinks, so can our gratitude and even our hope. This will surely make you feel and look old. I’m often reminded of that saying that goes something like this: It’s easy to be grateful when you’re sitting down to a feast; but the challenge (and mastery) is to be grateful when you’re starving. How do you hang on to gratitude and youthful hope when the external world isn’t giving you what you are wanting?

The key is to remember to return to feeling “young at heart” by refreshing your spirit when feeling overwhelmed by all the grown-up stuff – the constant bills, the heavy schedules, the inevitable communication problems, the inevitable losses, lack of sleep, disappointment, and more. Feeling young is to be curious, to be open to the new, to take risks, to play, and to be vulnerable. Without vulnerability and some risk-taking, nothing new can come in; you’re only replaying the same old patterns, beliefs, and habits. Life gets small if you lose fun, courage, and hope – please don’t let that happen. Find what puts a “song” in your heart. Here are 7 things I do regularly to keep my heart feeling young:

  1. I have a daily meditation practice to turn inward; it’s a time for only my authentic, inner experience – not attending to the needs of others or the perceived pressures of life. This is refreshment from the Source! Drinking in the sweet juiciness of the present moment, there’s nothing to do but just BE. The more I drink, the sweeter I realize it is. I also feel blessed that I can give myself Deeksha to quickly connect with this sacred space.
  1. If I’m so unhappy that I can’t conjure up the will to meditate, I play some of my favorite music to lift me out of dullness or funk. If it moves me to dance or sway a bit, I’ve struck gold!
  1. I get outside and move the body. One of my big joys is simply taking a walk in a natural setting. Walking can be great meditation, as can any athletic movement – swimming, biking, running. Yoga is great. All kinds of movement get me out of my head and into my body. Bodies are made to move and we can help shift stagnant energy in our auric energy field by moving.
  1. I feel my emotions as fully and as much as possible. I let myself cry, laugh heartily, love, or feel absolutely despondent. Humans are meant to feel; this, too, shifts stuck energy in our field.
  1. I create; Creativity is our very nature. For me, it’s writing. For someone else, it might be anything from sculpting, to cooking, gardening, or re-organizing the garage. I recommend doing what makes you lose track of time!
  1. I call or hang out with loved ones and friends when I’m feeling hopeless or low. Even though it might be your inclination, I don’t recommend isolating yourself when you feel unlovable. Humans need humans, or perhaps an adoring pet, to remind you that you’re not alone in this world.
  1. I give away my time, talent, and treasures. You’ve got to give it away to have it! When you feel depleted, that’s the time to help someone, somehow. Like it’s said, it’s easy to be grateful at a feast, but when you’re hungry, this is the time to rally – even if you have to fake it ‘till you make it, if necessary. Give!

And here’s a really powerful secret: Give away what you want to receive. It really works. Perhaps you won’t receive what you’re hoping for, on your timetable, and perhaps you’ll not receive it from the source you give to, but do give with faith, as if you have a limitless supply; for in fact you do. The universe is constantly flowing energy, so get in the flow of life to stay young at heart…your fairy tales might just come true!

If you are looking for support (and some magical fun)  in sparking your creativity or igniting your dreams, please consider joining an upcoming six-week, telephonic and shamanic, Career & Creativity Empowerment Group. You’ll meet and work with your own, personal Spiritual Guide to dispel the inner obstacles and roadblocks to empowered success. We’ll be doing shamanic journeying each week and you’ll receive Deeksha to put wings under your feet. This group begins Wednesday, Sept. 7, from 7:30-9pm Central time. Check it out here. Please let me know if you have questions or want to register — email me at paula@fromtheheartcenter.com. Only a couple of spots left!

 

In-to-me-see; 2 great classes coming up!

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I love this way of remembering what intimacy is all about:  “in-to-me-see”! Whether you’re trying to figure out what you really want, who you are, or why you’re here on earth, or whether you’re trying to find the perfect partner, spouse, friend, or lover (or make the one you have more perfect!) ….there’s only one direction in which to look and that’s INWARD.

Yes, it’s an inside job every time. The best guidance comes from within. The perfect partner, spouse, friend or lover manifests because you’ve connected with those qualities and accepted the not-so-perfect within yourself first. As the poet Rumi wrote, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

I’ve put together two different classes that will help you with the inward journey of the heart.  Both of these classes are taking place soon, so don’t delay in registering!

If you like the idea of staying home and yet intimately connecting via telephone with your Higher Self in a small group, consider joining me in a Shamanic Journeying Tele-class on August 3 and Aug. 7. If you have to miss one of these nights, a recording of the class will be provided. You can even choose to attend just one, but in my opinion, the price of two is well worth it.  No shamanic experience is necessary – class 1 will teach you to journey and meet your own personal Spiritual Guide. All the details are here.

If you’re local to the Chicago area, there’s a one night class happening on August 10 in Deerfield, IL. It’s called INTUITIVE PATHWAYS FOR CLEAR SELF-GUIDANCE. Do you ever feel immobilized by or struggle with confusion, indecision, or anxiety? Well, if you’d like to learn some powerful secrets to giving yourself an amazing oracle card reading to tap into higher wisdom, come to this class! Giving yourself card readings builds confidence, points you in a direction, raises your vibration, activates your inner antenna, and develops your trust in your own intuition. No experience is necessary and various kinds of oracle cards will be provided for use. The early-bird price ends August 5 and space is limited, so register now!  All the details are here.

Hope to connect with you and shine a light on your inward journey!

Blessings, Paula

Exploring Vulnerability, Acceptance, and Connection with Shamanic Journeying:

NEW CLASS OFFERING NEXT WEEK!  Exploring Vulnerability, Acceptance, and Connection with Shamanic Journeying; A Two-part Tele-class on Wed., Aug. 3, from 7:30-9:30pm CST, and Sun., Aug. 7, 2016, from 7-9pm CST.

man with a heart in hands on a white backgroundIn the great poet Rumi’s words: “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers that you have built within yourself against it.”

Do you long for the perfect lover, partner, friend, relative, or spouse who…

  • Sees the real you?
  • Loves you just as you are?
  • Is committed to the relationship’s growth?
  • Shares a profound heart connection?

If so, please join me via conference call for a shamanic journey experience, held in “sacred space”, to deeply explore any barriers to the kind of loving relationships you are seeking.

In this experiential 2-night course, you will receive direct, higher guidance and healing from your personal Spiritual Guide. We will be exploring through  shamanic journeying, meditation, and discussion how self-awareness, self-acceptance and vulnerability are doors to establishing relationships filled with authenticity and intimate connection.

Learn to shamanic journey from the convenience and privacy of your home. Others have found group tele-conferencing to be a powerful and effective way to support and amplify your own unique experience of journeying!  You can read some feedback below.

You may choose to attend one or both class nights – However, if you have no experience with shamanic journeying, please register for Class 1 and/or both nights. If you register in advance for both, there is a discount. If you miss either class, you will receive the recording of that class you’ve missed so that you can journey on your own.

Class 1: Wednesday, August 3, 7:30 – 9:30 pm Central Time, cost $25

Class 2: Sunday, August 7, 7pm-9pm Central Time, cost $25

Or:   Both classes paid in advance for $45 total

Class 1: During this first class, you will meet your personal Spiritual Guide and have an opportunity to explore areas of lack of awareness and fear that may have been unconsciously sabotaging the happiness of your relationships. You will look at childhood wounds that might be contributing to reactions that push partners away or build energetic protection around your heart. You’ll ask your Spiritual Guide to show you karmic (past-life) influences or ancestral conditioning contributing to relationship patterns. With higher spiritual guidance and group energetic support, unexpected insights might be revealed and shifts may occur.

Class 2: During the second night, we’ll create space for a profound inner journey to help you move into greater self-acceptance and vulnerability. When you practice unconditional self-acceptance, you attract more unconditional love into your life. With increased trust and connection to inner guidance, you are able to become more emotionally honest, resilient, courageous, and vulnerable with others in your life….and in return, others may feel greater freedom for acceptance, safety, and vulnerability with you.

Join me as we create a safe, open, and accepting field of love through shamanic journeying and meditation to explore how you can be the lover, partner, friend, relative, or spouse that your spirit longs to be, and to have the meaningful relationships you long to have.

Facilitated by Paula Rosenfeld, author, shamanic healer, Oneness Trainer, clairvoyant reader, and spiritual coach, with over 20 years experience holding sacred space for shamanic journeying.

To register contact: paula@fromtheheartcenter.com; or 773-791-8425

Credit cards accepted. Conferencing capability using FreeConferenceCall.com. Most people have free, unlimited calling with this service, but long-distance rates may apply, depending on your own carrier and plan. Contact Paula with any questions.

FEEDBACK from previous shamanic tele-class participants:

“I LOVED the tele-class format. One reason I loved it was because of convenience (no commute, doing the class in my own home… and not having to drive 30 minutes home, etc.). I also found I felt very deeply connected with the other participants, so I didn’t long for an opportunity to meet in person. Also, with the shamanic journeys, I felt much more comfortable letting go, releasing, and being with whatever showed up because I didn’t have an “audience” and because I was in my own safe space. I actually think I would have a really hard time journeying in person with a group of people (or at least a much harder time). “                                              -S.B., Chicago area

“I think the class exceeded my expectations. As I’m coming to learn, when I explore my spirituality I often get different outcomes than I expected. Not only did I grow spiritually, I learned so much more about myself and my truth than I anticipated. Most of what I learned was a surprise but in retrospect I can see why I’m being guided this way.”                                         -J.S., Minnesota

 “I am so thankful that I was able to participate in this special class. I feel like I have established a foundation for daily meditation and have become more self-aware of my self-limiting beliefs.  Class was also a great reminder that I am not alone in this physical journey.  I am grateful for the seeds that have been planted and I am excited for the continued growth ahead!”                     -I.M., Chicago area

Hmm…what should I do?

OracleClassFlyerimageEver struggle with what direction to take or what choice to make in your day-to-day life? I know that I sure do from time to time!

Sometimes when we want clear guidance desperately, the hardest thing is not to have mental interference in intuiting what’s best for us. We don’t want to be listening just to the mind at times like this…we want to be listening to our heart too.  Heart wisdom is the best kind of wisdom there is. The heart knows what it knows. The heart doesn’t waver in its knowing, but the mind loves to step in and present all the options.

The mind can take you on a looping journey through the ins and outs, the pros and cons….the safest route, the most predictable result, the answer that will preserve your dignity, pride, self-righteousness, and the protection of your vulnerability till death do you and your ego part!

The mind is a fantastic tool, don’t get me wrong…but when the mind serves the ego instead of the heart, then the higher wisdom you seek can be blocked.

At times like this, I tune inward. I sit with my question. I feel into it. I listen to my body. I play with a little muscle testing.  If I want a quick and easy way to connect in to a much greater and more complex network of wisdom than my ego/mind can afford, I’ll also pull an oracle card, or several cards.

I have a number of different oracle decks, including the traditional tarot deck, the Runes,  and the shamanic medicine cards, among others. I love them all. Each deck offers a slightly different perspective, but all of them offer a much more global, wiser, and universal, birds-eye view of life on this planet as a spiritual being having a human experience.

Being lifted above the minutia of mental details can be a real gift of sanity. Even if I’m resisting the message of a card that I picked, I usually sense its rightness. If that happens, I remind myself that it’s okay to feel resistance…and that practicing “staying with” one’s resistance is an extremely worthy spiritual endeavor as well. In fact, it’s a powerful doorway to actually moving into effortless action.

To “stay with” is to just “see.”  Just see your resistance and where your mind takes you at times like that…see the stories the ego weaves of injustice done to you.  See the emotions that arise and stay with those emotions. Eventually, one can move through resistance if the desire is there.  Not everyone wants to move through it, though, and that, too, is okay.

If you’re in the Chicago area, and would like a powerful evening of playing with oracle cards and tapping into inner wisdom, please join us on Wed., August 10, from 6:30-9:30pm in Deerfield, IL. I’m teaching this class with my friend and colleague Savita Jachim. The fee is $54 if you register by August 5, so don’t delay! It will be fun and give you some great tools to use next time it’s 2am and you can’t sleep because you’re mulling over a choice. Click here for the flyer with all the info!

One other little reminder – if you need some guidance and can’t get clear on your own, I’m always available to give you an Akashic Record or clairvoyant reading! A little bit of help can go a long way.

Many blessings,

Paula