There’s one prayer that I have highly recommended for years, and used in service of creating my own life’s work, but in one certain area of my life, I haven’t employed it. I’ve been afraid to truly let go enough to pray in this particular arena, in this particular way. That arena is romance, and my fear is that if I truly surrender, I won’t get what I want. It’s not my preference to be single, and I’ve tried persistently to change the situation as best I can. As I see it now, even though I’ve prayed for manifestation of a partner in the many various ways that I’ve been taught to pray, it hasn’t worked for a reason. I’ve probably tried to solve the problem from the level of mind that it was created by. As Einstein has pointed out, this just doesn’t work. In my heart, I know there’s one way of prayer that I haven’t been ready to do.
I’ve certainly had my share of extremely significant and precious relationships; each one lasted until they were finished. Not a unique story for many of us. Yet, I found myself, recently, throwing my hands up in the air, and sighing the proverbial, “I give up”. I was at a new level of despair, frustration and, ultimately, surrender – exactly what was needed, evidently, for my Divine to deliver a big, wake-up message.
Spirit’s breakthrough message came to me via a couple of coffee dates that ironically validated the extraordinary power of intention to manifest what we think we want. But what we manifest may not always be what we really need. The dates left me dazzled by Spirit’s notorious sense of humor, and I eventually saw a big flaw in the prayer technique I’ve been using in my search for a significant other.
For example, I’ve wanted to meet a potential loved one who adores animals just as much as I do. Recently, I was requesting of my Divine that this ideal person have a dog or two, since my landlord doesn’t permit dogs. (I’d imagined enjoying them vicariously, so to speak). I’ve been longing to have a significant relationship with some pets! Sure enough, I met someone with two dogs….and six cats too, bless her heart. Unfortunately, I had forgotten to remind Spirit that I have a low-level cat allergy. My own two beloved cats (now deceased) were fairly manageable for my allergy – but six cats would send me over the edge into asthma.
Dating wake-up call #2: Because I have a few food sensitivities, I can be a bit of a challenge (in some people’s eyes) to dine with. But I am so “over” having to justify certain food avoidances to people. So I’ve been asking my Divine for someone who understands and respects healthy, mindful eating. Who did I attract, you’re wondering? I called in a date with a woman with massive food allergies, (which I have deep, deep compassion for), but her severe allergies include both cats and dogs. Darn, I had forgotten to tell Spirit that my ideal partner, though loving dogs, would not be allergic to them, even allergic to non-allergenic dogs!
Trying to stay on top of all my particular specifications and expectations is exhausting. I can’t think of every single angle, polish my prayers, visualize, and expect my Divine not to have a great laugh at my expense! Here is the big “a-ha” that came a few weeks ago: I’ve got this particular idea of who I think will make me happy, and what I think will make me happy… and I’m expecting Spirit to be like a corporate head hunter who will fill the slot with exactly what I believe I want.
It’s like I have a job opening, and I want my Divine to fill it pronto with someone who has all the right qualifications. Like it’s all about me and my wants … What’s wrong with this picture?
What I see is that I have it all backwards. I need to dwell on what I have to offer, not what I want to get. I suspect things would work much better if I follow my own prayer advice and truly surrender. It’s the “truly” that is really hard.
The prayer goes something like this, and you can direct it to whatever Higher Power is sacred to you personally: “Use me. You know my desires, passions, skills and talents, dear Spirit…Let me please be a channel of your love. In service, Spirit, let me be joyful. Let me add to the world’s good. How, and with whom this might manifest is up to you, dear Spirit, so I let go of the reigns and trust in your wisdom and guidance.”
How this will show up in my dating life, remains to be seen. I’ll keep you posted! I do know that Spirit holds a vision for me, and everyone else, which is truly good and life-supportive. It’s a much higher perspective than my own.
And how does this prayer relate to Earth Day? With eyes wide open in an increasingly transparent world, we all are seeing the masses of politicians and world leaders who, in their humanity, have been severely limited by the consciousness they hold. The world’s a mess due to consciousness that has been conditioned by centuries of fear. The structures that we have taken for granted are crumbling in the wake of rising global awareness and dissension. Ugliness and cruelty also abound rampantly, seemingly hopelessly mired and motivated in fear.
We watch now as our beautiful Earth is being destroyed by this pressure cooker called life in 2017, co-created by all of us. Humans have used, manipulated, and transgressed the natural world to serve our own needs. We have forced our will. All the years of mindless taking from Earth is destroying her. Many of us have seen these times coming for years, but have been unable to influence the consciousness of “those” in control of how money is spent to create this lifestyle we share on Earth. We watch in horror. Some of us march with anger or hope.
As in the state of surrender needed for dating help, perhaps you might join me in humbly praying to Spirit today for help for the world. My Divine has me writing blog posts, contacting politicians, protesting, setting an example, going back to school to become an integrative nutrition coach, and of course recycling. I am doing these things, but want to do so much more. I want to experience more than give glaring looks at littered sidewalks, shake my head at unhealthy fast food joints, and walk past grocery stores filled with packaged, processed, sugar-laden saboteurs, waiting to destroy someone’s health and happiness. I want to educate, wake-up others, and transform this life-denigrating mess we’ve created.
I hereby pray, and please join me if you feel so moved, to declare: I humbly offer my love, talents, skills, and passion to make this existence better for my own life, the life of our beautiful Earth, all her wondrous creatures, and the generations to come who might never know a glorious late April day like this one (at the rate we’re going), with flowers and trees a’blooming, water coming from faucets, air that is still fairly breathable, and, thank you Spirit, organically, humanely raised food options in the store … because organic farmers get it. Immense thanks to all those who get the value of life, of all things natural, of love, peace, and beauty… and are living in their truth and not in fear.
What is your prayer today? Can you let go and trust Spirit to use your talents, passion, and actions to give to the world what it needs for transformation? If you feel frustrated, confused, fearful, or blocked, please consider taking a step toward faith and action. I urge you to strengthen your bond with the personal Divine of your heart, whatever that looks like for you – so that you can be led to serve, to give, to be a sharer of Light who transforms this chaos and destruction going on now.
If you are feeling that you can’t really “turn it over” to a Divine that you don’t trust, have I got a recommendation for you! There will be another big Oneness event happening on July 1 and 2, in Chicagoland and other parts of the country. It will be a rare chance to strengthen your bond with your personal Divine by leaps and bounds. It will help you connect, expand, brighten your Light, listen within, take action, and create change with your very own awakening consciousness. The event is called The Phenomenon and the Gift. The teachings are live-streamed from Oneness University in India with highly enlightened teachers. Please check out the Chicago event HERE.
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For the Chicago event, the deadline for the early registration discount is April 30, so don’t delay. There are even payment plans options available for this event!
Wishing you all a day of awe and gratitude for the Earth… and the courage to trust, to let go, and also to take action where you are Divinely guided.