From Unresolved relationships with deceased

25th anniversary and my own “Me Too” reflections

Over 32 years ago, I was a young realtor looking for a meaningful way to express my deep desire to raise the consciousness of humanity.  Every part of me passionately felt that as a world culture, we were in the midst of a vast, spiritual drought. We were hugely disconnected from nature, each other, and what was sacred.  There was no part of me, however, that consciously knew  how to specifically contribute to changing the world. In fact, I felt lost and overwhelmed by the enormity of the world’s circumstances and was struggling to fit in to the material world.

My real estate work did not feel fulfilling, and my biological clock was ticking at that time. In my mid-thirties, I got married and had a baby. In becoming a mother, I felt tremendous joy and purpose, but there was still something within, urging me to contribute to raising the consciousness of humanity. I didn’t know what to do with that desire, but Spirit clearly did.

A series of very painful circumstances resulted in the dissolution of my marriage. I became a single mother with a very young child. I could no longer keep a realtor’s chaotic, on-call 24/7, schedule with a small child who needed my consistent availability. I didn’t know what to do and prayed hard for answers about how to make money in a fulfilling and mutually beneficial way for my daughter, myself, and humanity.

One day, the answer came very unexpectedly when I ran into a friend who was starting a massage therapy business. I had dabbled a bit in learning to give massage (had taken a few classes just for fun), and my friend suggested I take formal training to learn to be a massage therapist. I contemplated that and decided it was a good idea because I’d have control of my schedule in a way that could support my daughter’s needs. Besides, I had no idea of what else to do!

From that point on, my career unfolded, naturally, in line with my passion to help others grow in happiness and consciousness. I studied Thai massage and became a massage therapist. I loved it! It opened me to a whole new world as a healer. 25 years ago, I officially named my private practice, “From The Heart Center.”  I also learned many other forms of energy work, including shamanic healing. Heeding a strong inner pull, I studied with various shamans and was able to share the powerful ancient art of shamanic healing with my clients.

Years later, another significant shift took place. After discovering the Oneness Blessing (also called Oneness Deeksha), and traveling to India to study with the founders of it, the opportunity to write a book about the Oneness Blessing fell in my lap. A publisher wanted a book about it; I said “yes” to another long-held dream, to write. I am so incredibly grateful to Spirit and to the publisher for that opportunity to contribute, and for overcoming my fears in order to do it!

In retrospect, I see how my Divine guided me through every step to the work I love and the contribution to raising humanity’s consciousness that I longed to make. I was also naturally led to become a certified holistic health coach, and embraced the joy of helping people sync their their lifestyle and health goals with their spiritual values.

The spiritual path is filled with so much synchronicity and unexpected blessings. Not much in my life has been pre-planned. Sometimes guidance has come as a closed door that forced me to seek out another door to open. I’ve had my share of slammed doors and scary moments, but walking through those open doors have only required taking one baby step after another — in order to arrive at a purpose I never could have planned.  It all starts with a very passionate intention and, clearly, Divine grace. If you reflect on your own life, I’m sure you’ll recall the many synchronicities and miracles that have led you to be who you are now. There is so much for each of us to be grateful for!

To be sure, like so many of you, I’ve had many significant challenges along the way. I’ll continue to write about these in future blogs, in hopes that my experiences shed light on your own. But given the current timeliness, I want to briefly mention my own experiences with sexual violations. I’ve had three “Me Too” moments in earlier years of my career, in which I experienced inappropriate sexual behavior from men, and confronted the perpetrators. In two out of these three cases, when I reported my experiences to some people in pertinent “authority” roles, to my surprise, in each case, over 25 other women came forward and corroborated similar experiences with these men.  I won’t go into details here, but the perpetrators involved suffered big repercussions for their actions. There is great benefit to calling out the truth. I hope that inspires you to share your own voice with the world.

I know these traumatic “Me Too” experiences have made me stronger, more courageous about voicing my truth, and have also enabled me to better assist others in doing the deep work of healing trauma. I am particularly passionate about working with survivors of sexual trauma. I would say that the vast majority of my female clients have had sexual trauma, as well as many men, of course.  Additionally, in working with past lives as well as current lives, it’s clear that we all have numerous kinds of trauma locked in our DNA and energy fields. Trauma can be subtle or very obvious; either way, the affect on our lives can be hugely influential. The shamanic soul retrieval and extraction work I do addresses all kinds of trauma, in order to restore our authentic, empowered wholeness. It helps us to achieve greater clarity, contribution, and love.

I know that there is a beautiful, eternal place of peace, hope, creativity, and love within each of us, that none of these traumatic, earth-bound experiences can destroy. It’s a connection to that sacred place within, an innate, intimate connection, that will bring heaven to earth someday.  All the work I do with clients strengthens that connection. It’s in that connection to our Higher Self that guidance, healing, and miracles occur. It’s very important that we all find this place of safety, joy, wholeness, authenticity and inner peace…and go there daily as much as possible. Ideally, we all will come to live there. There, in conscious awareness of our authentic Self, is the profound power of being present to the “what is” of life. That awareness brings us true inner freedom, greater connection, spiritual growth, and blesses all.

The darkness of the separation of humanity from Source has radically manifested in the external world now. The spiritual blight of lower vibrational consciousness persists, but it’s present right along side with the growing global tide of profound awakening. We can’t help but perceive the gravity of physical reality now, even if we wish it weren’t so, and it’s time to accept and confront the darkness in order to open ourselves to greater Light. We are each being called in individual ways to evolve. As always, it’s an inside job first. Each person’s consciousness, actions, and way of being in the world matters and affects thousands of others, now and in future generations.

As bleak as today’s self-destructive situations seem, there is a tidal wave of being “woke” in the mainstream. We are breaking through deeply entrenched unconsciousness. It takes courage and perseverance. We can’t go back to sleep, though some are clearly trying like heck to maintain the status quo, or even worse.

Being awake to the greater role we play in the transformation of the world requires inner work first, along with grace. We must recognize our hurts and wounds, and take steps to heal them. We must take action where our inner voice guides us, and we must call in help from whatever higher Source is sacred and meaningful to each of us.

I’ve been offering my services, from my heart to yours, for over 25 years, to support you in your quest for healing trauma, taking action, and connecting with whatever Sacred Source you’re called to. A shaman is an intercessor between humans and Spirit; The work I do is always to connect you with what is uniquely sacred to you and support you in moving forward to wherever you’re being called. There is no better time to grow in consciousness and joy. If you’d like to have a complimentary conversation with me to discuss how my services might help you, please do not hesitate to reach out. Contact me at paula@fromtheheartcenter.com or 773-791-8425.

Thank you for being open, for being pulled into awakening awareness, and for spreading the word that that help is available to transform your own life first…and then the world! No matter what is going on in our country and the world, please know that you are being drawn to a state of greater joy, aliveness, and inner peace. Have faith, expect miracles, and remember to take it one step at a time!

TALKED REALITY WITH YOUR BODY LATELY?

Image: Soul of a womanMy heart has been with all those affected by the reality of these unprecedented hurricanes, flooding, and fires…and we’ve all been affected, of course. But I can only imagine the extreme challenges of living in the wake of the devastation.  To those still struggling, I hope you are experiencing the collective love and concern.

These past few weeks of massive destruction have rattled the shreds of any denial lurking in our collective awareness of the power of nature.  But as bad as its been, to those who look, the power of prayer and faith has also been affirmed. The manifestations of Mother Earth are intimately tied to the consciousness of those who inhabit the planet. With the reality of widespread disrespect and abuse of nature, there’s no mystery in our Earth Mother’s revolt.  Scientists have warned of it…as have mystics and those not blinded by financial interest, fear, and greed.  And to those anchored in faith, there is hope for this troubled planet…but only with a change in consciousness and a corrected course of action.

Likewise, the human body, when treated disrespectfully and with abuse, does also revolt. Researchers and those who have studied the ways of the body, can tell you that if you ingest sugar, unhealthy fats, chemicals, and hormone laded food, then the body is weakened and creates disease.  If you pile stress upon stress on these vulnerable nervous systems (without interventions like quality sleep, relaxation and perhaps even meditation), there will be trouble.  If you don’t mend broken relationships and frequently disregard the need for exercise, there will be consequences.  Like the fate of this planet, we are creating our destiny in each choice we make.

You are not your body. You are embodied consciousness. You’re a sacred, magnificent spirit with infinite possibilities, housed in a body created from what you eat, feel, believe, and do. The physical body beams as much light and love as the quality of its cellular infrastructure can hold.  Are you in need of an upgrade so that the vibration of your body temple moves into greater alignment with the beauty of your soul?

After years of struggling with my own personal challenges of digestion and back pain, I’ve learned the hard way that the body is always talking…but am I fully listening? Am I truly present and embodied …or am I ungrounded, in denial, and off in the la-la land of the mind?  This body talks and you better believe, I listen now. Experience can bring wisdom; This body is my beloved collaborator in the light and love I want to share while I’m alive, and I can’t do that well if I’m struggling with suffering and ill health.  How is your own relationship with the physical home of your spirit?  Many of us are very disconnected from the sources of nourishment of body, mind, and spirit.

To listen to the needs of the body is self-love in action, particularly if you are hoping to sustain a high-quality lifespan!  I personally don’t obsess about a long life, though I would be very happy to be blessed with one. What I do passionately desire is a quality of life that is vibrant, flexible, expansive, and as un-medicated as possible.  Since the future of insurance is rather uncertain and our country’s medical care system is a complex web of politics and money-laden interests, the time to take charge of our wholeness and health is right now!

Physical and emotional pain and disease is the body’s wake-up call, but how about taking a pro-active stance right now, before you’re stuck with a crisis comparable to Hurricane Irma? The physical body is the outermost manifestation of your consciousness.   Given your full attention, the body will talk to you loud and clear, telling you about its needs, wants, and emotional state.  Start  communicating seriously and get curious about what it tells you. Then make a course correction to get in balance, if necessary!

Here are 3 very important suggestions for attending to your body’s communications, while at the same time, demonstrating some powerful self-love:

  1. Sit down and close your eyes.  Turning within, do a quick inner body scan, from head to toes.  Notice areas of tightness, stress, or pain.  Using deep breathing, send some love and relaxation to the parts of your body that are unhappy.  Breathe into the discomfort. Ask your body to let go, and send it some soothing words of love. Great to do this periodically while working at a desk or gazing at your computer, phone, or television for hours!
  1. Ask yourself, “what do I already know I need to do for my body and health?”  We know how to heal ourselves!  We know we need exercise, less stress, better relationships, better eating…So start doing it!  Make a decision to take action instead of procrastinating. If you’re struggling with moving forward, get yourself a holistic health coach and healer to help you break through! (sorry, I couldn’t resist throwing some self-promotion in!)  Take this inner-knowing seriously.  Like any significant, intimate relationship, your relationship with your body requires daily attention, respect, and devotion.
  1. Feel your feelings all the way through. Feelings are the result of the body’s interaction with life.  Unfortunately, many of us run from our feelings to avoid discomfort.  Trapped feelings in the body create pain, disease, anxiety, depression, and unconsciousness.  To feel is human, but to stifle feelings is to create trouble down the road. Don’t take your feelings out on anyone else. Don’t let feelings build up within, only to leak out later as criticism, snarky digs, or outright anger.  Instead, when you have a moment, sit down and really feel your sadness, frustration, fear and anger.  Breathe into the feelings, get close to them, stay with them, and you’ll see that the feelings dissipate and release. Then your spirit is returned to inner peace and joy.

I’m wishing for you a high-quality life of alignment of body and spirit!  If you haven’t scheduled a FREE HOLISTIC HEALTH CONSULTATION with me yet to discuss your concerns and goals, the door is still open!  Contact paula@fromtheheartcenter.com or 773-791-8425.

For you fellow Chicagoans, please consider attending the upcoming, Sept. 19th Oneness Circle for a course correction and soulful, uplifting reconnection with the Sacred Self… Be revitalized, enraptured, and inspired to be your best on all levels!

She called me the “House Whisperer”

Halloween design with haunted house

“The House Whisperer” is what a client recently called me. She was feeling grateful that I’d helped her home to sell by assisting a “Ghost”  to the Light. I got a big chuckle from the term she used, and it prompted me to write a bit about a service I do that is not talked much about….but is often very needed. In the shamanic vernacular, it’s known as psychopomp – which refers to escorting the souls of deceased beings to the Light.

In this particular client’s case, I’ve known her from back in the day when I sold real estate while doing my healing work part-time. She and her husband were buyers who I had represented.

It took us only one or two house-hunting trips before we found the perfect home for them. I credit that to the spiritual forces working behind the scenes! They are still very happily living in that home, but have now inherited another house that’s been very difficult to close on. It sold (on paper) very quickly, but for puzzling reasons, it had been unable to close for the last four or five months. My client wondered if the deceased owner’s spirit was somehow blocking the closing from becoming scheduled.

Experiencing difficulties with the spirits of previous inhabitants is more common than you’d think. I’ve been doing psychopomp work for well over twenty years. Most of the time, I do it to help resolve issues and integrate losses in relationships that people have with deceased parents, relatives, friends, partners, and pets. When bonds are strong and emotions unresolved, whether the issue concerns a person, animal, or a home, a part of the deceased may stay “stuck” on the earth plane. This hinders the deceased from fully evolving, and can also show up as “stuckness” in health, wealth or happiness in those who are alive — and even manifest as “stuckness” in house sales.

Literally five minutes after my client left my office after doing the “House Whispering”, she phoned me. I thought she had forgotten something at my office; but it wasn’t that. She had called to tell me she had just gotten a call from her attorney that the house closing was finally scheduled. Success!

If you’d like to learn more about how freeing the spirits of deceased loved ones (or previous home or apartment dwellers) might make a difference in your own life and well being, please contact me at paula@fromtheheartcenter.com. I’ll write more about the significance of lifting deceased spirits in future blog posts.

I’ll just leave you with this thought: Spirit is eternal energy. It exists in many dimensions, beyond our understanding of time and place. The bonds of relationships with the deceased impact our lives in huge ways. Respect that phenomenon, work with it, and you will find much opportunity to shift some of the “stuckness” you might be struggling with in your life. The “veils” between dimensions are very thin at this time of year – This magical Halloween energy is a great opportunity to connect with Spirit!

Many blessings,

Paula