From Psychopomp

She called me the “House Whisperer”

Halloween design with haunted house

“The House Whisperer” is what a client recently called me. She was feeling grateful that I’d helped her home to sell by assisting a “Ghost”  to the Light. I got a big chuckle from the term she used, and it prompted me to write a bit about a service I do that is not talked much about….but is often very needed. In the shamanic vernacular, it’s known as psychopomp – which refers to escorting the souls of deceased beings to the Light.

In this particular client’s case, I’ve known her from back in the day when I sold real estate while doing my healing work part-time. She and her husband were buyers who I had represented.

It took us only one or two house-hunting trips before we found the perfect home for them. I credit that to the spiritual forces working behind the scenes! They are still very happily living in that home, but have now inherited another house that’s been very difficult to close on. It sold (on paper) very quickly, but for puzzling reasons, it had been unable to close for the last four or five months. My client wondered if the deceased owner’s spirit was somehow blocking the closing from becoming scheduled.

Experiencing difficulties with the spirits of previous inhabitants is more common than you’d think. I’ve been doing psychopomp work for well over twenty years. Most of the time, I do it to help resolve issues and integrate losses in relationships that people have with deceased parents, relatives, friends, partners, and pets. When bonds are strong and emotions unresolved, whether the issue concerns a person, animal, or a home, a part of the deceased may stay “stuck” on the earth plane. This hinders the deceased from fully evolving, and can also show up as “stuckness” in health, wealth or happiness in those who are alive — and even manifest as “stuckness” in house sales.

Literally five minutes after my client left my office after doing the “House Whispering”, she phoned me. I thought she had forgotten something at my office; but it wasn’t that. She had called to tell me she had just gotten a call from her attorney that the house closing was finally scheduled. Success!

If you’d like to learn more about how freeing the spirits of deceased loved ones (or previous home or apartment dwellers) might make a difference in your own life and well being, please contact me at paula@fromtheheartcenter.com. I’ll write more about the significance of lifting deceased spirits in future blog posts.

I’ll just leave you with this thought: Spirit is eternal energy. It exists in many dimensions, beyond our understanding of time and place. The bonds of relationships with the deceased impact our lives in huge ways. Respect that phenomenon, work with it, and you will find much opportunity to shift some of the “stuckness” you might be struggling with in your life. The “veils” between dimensions are very thin at this time of year – This magical Halloween energy is a great opportunity to connect with Spirit!

Many blessings,

Paula

Spiritual Flexibility

One of the qualities I appreciate most in life is flexibility. The word implies, for me, a give and take, a responding to, sort of “dancing” or engaging with life, as opposed to running on rigid self-will.

As we go through life, not only does the body lose its youthful flexibility (unless you’re doing serious yoga!), but we see inflexibility showing up on the mental and emotional levels too. True confession: Few things bug me more than bumping up against someone’s willful stubbornness – which clearly indicates that I struggle with my own stubborn, emotional and mental inflexibility at times, which I do. Remember, what we reject in others is a projection of what we reject in our self.

On a regular basis, some part of me digs in and refuses to go with the flow of reality. Sometimes, some part of me doesn’t want to let go of old dreams that didn’t work out. Or my mind reruns a “story” over and over, as if that could make it turn out differently.  At times, I notice myself not wanting to let go of old strategies that once worked, but no longer fit. Or, I may internally insist someone be who I want them to be, rather than just accepting that person as he or she is.  These are all aspects of rejecting “what is, ” as opposed to engaging with it.

To go with the flow of experiences and changes that life continually offers us is to have spiritual flexibility. It is a flexibility of the spirit to adapt to life, to change, to loss, and to evolution itself.

Another word for inflexibility might be resistance, and resistance shows up everywhere! We are resistant to change because we fear it. We fear it because we have suffered a lot of pain in the past, and we base the future on that. We don’t want to feel scared, hurt, abandoned, or alone – which we may have felt as a child.

Ironically, it is our resistance to the flow of life and change that puts us out of alignment with Divine Intelligence (or God, or our Higher Power – whatever you choose to call it.)  When we are not aligned with Source, we feel alone, confused, and perhaps abandoned…the very feelings we were hoping to avoid.  There is peace, connection, and grace with acceptance.

As a shamanic practitioner, my work is to allow the Divine to move through me in order to bring back the soul parts of people who resist a traumatic experience.  With trauma, this soul loss can happen as a survival mechanism.  Reality is spiritually resisted in order to emotionally survive it. This happens to people and animals.  A part of their soul had to say a big “no” to experiencing that amount of pain or hurt, so the part takes off to another reality (shamanism calls it “non-ordinary reality”). Psychiatrists call the phenomenon “disassociation.”  It creates a kind of emotional numbness. It adds to that sense of isolation.  It can barricade the spiritual heart behind a thick wall.

The soul loss, in a sense, served survival successfully at the time of the trauma. After all, the psyche can only take so much and people do what they have to in order to survive. But when trauma ends, a soul part often can’t return on its own volition. The soul part become stuck in non-ordinary reality; stuck in the initially life-saving act of resistance. Ultimately, however, to spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically thrive, we need as much of our spirit as possible to move forward. We need our wholeness in order to keep evolving, to stay flexible, vulnerable, connected, and responsive – to say “yes” to life and the changes it requires of us.

Shamans actually work with the spiritual resistance of deceased people as well as live ones. Sometimes when a death is sudden or traumatic (like a car accident), or if a person doesn’t want to leave behind loved ones, that soul is also stuck in non-ordinary reality; it’s unable to fully transition to Source, where it can evolve. That might also occur if the deceased person was not able to have a peaceful death in which relationship grievances were healed, inner conflicts were resolved, and death was accepted.

This type of shamanic work is called psychopomp. I’ve done it many times for the deceased parents, relatives, friends, or partners of my clients. Often, the symptom of a need for psychopomp is “stuckness,” on some level, in the clients seeking my help. Because we are all connected in love, when someone we are close to dies in that way, we are spiritually affected as well. We may still be resisting their death or in conflict in relation to them, on some level.

In the Oneness Blessing teachings, as well as shamanism, we are taught the importance of liberating our ancestors; of helping them fully merge with the Light. If you are feeling stuck in some area of your life, you might ask yourself if a deceased relative or loved one may need “lifting up.” Or if not an ancestor, perhaps some part of your own spirit needs to be lifted and your heart’s flexibility to be liberated. I think you might intuitively get an answer if you turn within.  If you need assistance, perhaps I can be of help.