From God

Spiritual Flexibility

One of the qualities I appreciate most in life is flexibility. The word implies, for me, a give and take, a responding to, sort of “dancing” or engaging with life, as opposed to running on rigid self-will.

As we go through life, not only does the body lose its youthful flexibility (unless you’re doing serious yoga!), but we see inflexibility showing up on the mental and emotional levels too. True confession: Few things bug me more than bumping up against someone’s willful stubbornness – which clearly indicates that I struggle with my own stubborn, emotional and mental inflexibility at times, which I do. Remember, what we reject in others is a projection of what we reject in our self.

On a regular basis, some part of me digs in and refuses to go with the flow of reality. Sometimes, some part of me doesn’t want to let go of old dreams that didn’t work out. Or my mind reruns a “story” over and over, as if that could make it turn out differently.  At times, I notice myself not wanting to let go of old strategies that once worked, but no longer fit. Or, I may internally insist someone be who I want them to be, rather than just accepting that person as he or she is.  These are all aspects of rejecting “what is, ” as opposed to engaging with it.

To go with the flow of experiences and changes that life continually offers us is to have spiritual flexibility. It is a flexibility of the spirit to adapt to life, to change, to loss, and to evolution itself.

Another word for inflexibility might be resistance, and resistance shows up everywhere! We are resistant to change because we fear it. We fear it because we have suffered a lot of pain in the past, and we base the future on that. We don’t want to feel scared, hurt, abandoned, or alone – which we may have felt as a child.

Ironically, it is our resistance to the flow of life and change that puts us out of alignment with Divine Intelligence (or God, or our Higher Power – whatever you choose to call it.)  When we are not aligned with Source, we feel alone, confused, and perhaps abandoned…the very feelings we were hoping to avoid.  There is peace, connection, and grace with acceptance.

As a shamanic practitioner, my work is to allow the Divine to move through me in order to bring back the soul parts of people who resist a traumatic experience.  With trauma, this soul loss can happen as a survival mechanism.  Reality is spiritually resisted in order to emotionally survive it. This happens to people and animals.  A part of their soul had to say a big “no” to experiencing that amount of pain or hurt, so the part takes off to another reality (shamanism calls it “non-ordinary reality”). Psychiatrists call the phenomenon “disassociation.”  It creates a kind of emotional numbness. It adds to that sense of isolation.  It can barricade the spiritual heart behind a thick wall.

The soul loss, in a sense, served survival successfully at the time of the trauma. After all, the psyche can only take so much and people do what they have to in order to survive. But when trauma ends, a soul part often can’t return on its own volition. The soul part become stuck in non-ordinary reality; stuck in the initially life-saving act of resistance. Ultimately, however, to spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically thrive, we need as much of our spirit as possible to move forward. We need our wholeness in order to keep evolving, to stay flexible, vulnerable, connected, and responsive – to say “yes” to life and the changes it requires of us.

Shamans actually work with the spiritual resistance of deceased people as well as live ones. Sometimes when a death is sudden or traumatic (like a car accident), or if a person doesn’t want to leave behind loved ones, that soul is also stuck in non-ordinary reality; it’s unable to fully transition to Source, where it can evolve. That might also occur if the deceased person was not able to have a peaceful death in which relationship grievances were healed, inner conflicts were resolved, and death was accepted.

This type of shamanic work is called psychopomp. I’ve done it many times for the deceased parents, relatives, friends, or partners of my clients. Often, the symptom of a need for psychopomp is “stuckness,” on some level, in the clients seeking my help. Because we are all connected in love, when someone we are close to dies in that way, we are spiritually affected as well. We may still be resisting their death or in conflict in relation to them, on some level.

In the Oneness Blessing teachings, as well as shamanism, we are taught the importance of liberating our ancestors; of helping them fully merge with the Light. If you are feeling stuck in some area of your life, you might ask yourself if a deceased relative or loved one may need “lifting up.” Or if not an ancestor, perhaps some part of your own spirit needs to be lifted and your heart’s flexibility to be liberated. I think you might intuitively get an answer if you turn within.  If you need assistance, perhaps I can be of help.




Awakening to Oneness and the Oneness Blessing Phenomenon

If you’ve experienced my work or read this blog before, you may have become acquainted with the Oneness Blessing.  It is a transmission of  energy which can catalyze a shift in consciousness that can result in permanent awakening.  This energy transmission comes from India, from the visionaries who founded Oneness University there — and its profound effect is sweeping the globe.  It is not a religion, nor does it ask you to follow any path.  In fact, the Oneness Blessing phenomenon supports each individual in following their heart, and in achieving the freedom to be their unique self.

This energy can be transmitted through the hands of a Oneness Blessing Giver and the energy can also be powerfully transmitted through the eyes of people who are especially attuned to share what is called the Oneness Meditation.  The energy can also be transmitted through the intention of a Blessing Giver, without even the use of hands.

The energy transmission that occurs during a Oneness Blessing  is hard to describe and will have a unique effect on each person who receives it.  Each time you receive a Oneness Blessing, it may feel different to you, as well.

In general, people who have received the Oneness Blessing have reported increased feelings of joy,  release of tension and stress, sense of inner peace, calmness, feeling lighter, releasing mind chatter, becoming more self-aware, receiving insights, feeling gratitude, feeling connected to everything,  sometimes physical healing, and feeling closer to whatever they consider Source.

Over time, especially with repeated Oneness Blessings, many have reported a falling away of addictive patterns, more harmonious and heart-connected relationships, a sense of purpose, more balance in their life, being in the flow of life and abundance, and, in fact, many miracles.

Speaking from my own experience of permanent awakening, I can say that all of these benefits of receiving the Oneness Blessing are the gifts of an awakened life.  Becoming awakened is actually a permanent neuro-biological shift in the brain – a shift that launches a path that can conceivably evolve into enlightenment, a state of total unity consciousness.

Which is why I would like to urge everyone to receive Oneness Blessings and, in fact, consider becoming a Blessing Giver.   When you give the Oneness Blessing, you also receive it … and there is an exponentially huge benefit to being able to give it.  Not only does it accelerate the transformation of your own consciousness, but it also gives you “sat karma” — the Indian term for good karma.  The law of karma is that what you give out comes back to you – so the more good you give, the more good flows back to you.

To be able to help others grow in consciousness is one of the highest forms of giving.  How powerful it is to create more happiness in the world!  How fulfilling to help someone step into their higher consciousness potential.  Not only that, but to actually change the world, we all must find happiness and peace within our self.  When you can find it within and are able to help someone else find permanent inner peace and joy, then I believe you are truly co-creating heaven on earth with Spirit, one person at a time.

People in Asia, Europe, Africa, the Americas, and more are receiving and giving Oneness Blessings now.  This is a world-wide phenomenon.  The world is on the path of transformation, and though there is much darkness to move through, the future holds hope for generations to come.

If you are interested in taking the weekend training that initiates you to become a Oneness Blessing Giver, there is one coming up in Chicago on June 28 and 29, 2014, at Bodhi Spiritual Center.   The course is a deep dive into exploring your relationships with others and your unique relationship with Spirit. It is filled with processes, meditation and Oneness Blessings to move you toward a state of flowering of the heart.   To register for the course, go to:

If you live out of town, please contact me for more information on finding a Oneness group in your vicinity or to have me do a training course in your area so you can have a community of people who are transforming in consciousness.


As expressed in A Course Of Miracles, the only thing that’s real is love.  The rest, basically, is fear. The emotional roller coaster we ride daily amounts to reactions to the illusions we project onto life, which are based on the skewed perceptions of our survival-obsessed minds.  Given that most of us get so bogged down in the fearful thoughts and feelings generated by our judgmental minds, how can we wade through the thick muck of fear and egocentricity to get to the love part?

In my own travels along the spiritual path, I recently hit a hugely dark and ominous cavern, smack dab in the middle of a steep and narrow trail to happiness.  When I first encountered it, I shuddered in fear and repulsion.  I realized that it had been there for decades, or maybe centuries, but I wasn’t ready to see it before.

Now, there would be no way to avoid it if I wanted to claim my natural state of authentic joy.  After years of diligently slugging along the winding road of transformation, Divine Grace brought me here, and despite the challenge of staring down the darkness inside, I knew this opportunity was a huge gift.  

The gift came along with the possibility of actually achieving a long-held dream.  This is how it happens, sometimes.  We may be on the brink of getting something we long for, or maybe we’re standing right in it, but we need to grow in order to fully receive it.  Maybe our heart needs to be cranked open a little further so we can hold the big bundle of happiness that the universe is offering.

If left unchallenged, our minds may find a way to sabotage our happiness. The mind is typically hell-bent on clinging to it’s comfortable level of victimization.  Don’t underestimate the power of the mind to create problems, illnesses, miscommunications, addictions, and other obstacles to happiness!

So after staring into this black hole for a few weeks (nervously dancing around its edges, and then retreating), and after finally accepting that there was no means to get around it, I prayed deeply to the Divine for the courage to move through it.  I sucked in some air, prepared to dive head-first, and walked to its edge.

Looking in, my stomach lurched.  I could feel terror and loneliness emanating from its smoky epicenter.  I prayed for courage and then jumped in.  I felt the darkness rise up into my throat and I stayed with it the sensation of being choked.  To my relief, the discomfort of some unconscious childhood or past-life wounding moved through me in a matter of minutes.  And then there was nothing left but peace.

Who knows what it was, but I can tell you it was really primal.  I’m happy to report that my Divine came through for me, of course, and that particular black hole evaporated like the desert illusion it was.  There may be more black holes to traverse, but having vanquished this one, I’m celebrating now.

And that’s how it goes when we need to look at the unconscious, ancient terror of being alone, separate from Source, unloved, and unlovable – which the collective mind tries, with all its might, to suppress.  

The “what is” of life is really love, but to live in it, we have to breathe our way, and  feel our way, through the illusions.  We need to embrace the trapped emotions in our bodies.  We need Grace to do that, so I urge you to call on your Divine for help with this. 

I use my tools of prayer, meditation, shamanic journeying, and, especially because it is a fast shortcut, Oneness Blessings,  and the teachings of Oneness, to move closer and through inner darkness.  I find the courage to transform so that I can be happy, so I can lighten the world with radiance, and because there is really no other way to make this world heaven on earth.  

Peace and love,